Do high maintenance people drive you nuts?

Depends on who is doing the maintenance.

If it’s someone else’s problem (or responsibility) then I don’t particularly care. Everyone has his/her own mishegass, and some have more mishegass than others.

over the years, it seems like most of my friends (and almost all of my family) are low maintenance people, so I guess I’m grateful for that.

I am high-maintenance, and I drive myself nuts.

As long as it doesn’t directly involve Mrs Squeeky or myself not really.

I avoid them so I don’t let them influence me if I can avoid it.

What do you mean by high-maintenance, anyway?

Yep, zero tolerance for drama queens and kings and emotionally hysterical, moody or otherwise fucked up neurotic types. haha
Yep, no mincing words or sugar coating the emotionally high maintenance types for me.
Stay-away-from-me.

They drive me fucking insane.

@cinnamonk Well, you labeled yourself as one. So how are you high maintenance?

Make me nucking futs!

I’m not sure if this is what you mean, but I consider myself to be fairly high maintenance, I’m extremely neurotic/anxious, sensitive, a perfectionist, I like plans and don’t do well with spontaneity, I need to have time for my routine and I like to know what is happening ahead of time. I have very low self esteem, so I am not a wash and go sort of person, I need to do my hair and makeup and be presentable before I feel comfortable going out to do things (including mundane stuff like grocery shopping or going to lunch.) For what it’s worth, I’m pretty sure that I have some good qualities to balance out this part of my personality. ;)
I am patient with other people who have similar needs, but slightly less patient with those who seem to have no care in the world for time or how their behavior and actions might inconvenience others. That seems to be more common in my lower maintenance friends/family. They are generally happier and more carefree, but they seem most likely to be unreliable or always late, etc. That gets on my nerves.

@Rarebear

Basically what @ANef_is_Enuf said.

I have high anxiety and low self esteem, and I get overwhelmed by stress easily. If I make a mistake, like if I spill something or break something, I am reduced to a babbling, incoherent ball of self-hatred. It doesn’t take much to ruin my day. The worst part is I know when I am overreacting to things but my body reacts before my mind does and I can’t help it – it’s sort of like sneezing, it just happens automatically. It’s exhausting.

Got it. Thanks for opening up.

It sounds like you would benefit from some cognitive behavioral therapy. (Being serious here)

Actually, I did CBT for a couple of years while in college, but stopped after I graduated (in 2013) since I moved away. I do believe that I benefited from it at the time but I’m not sure whether it has had a lasting effect.

I’ve been trying to find a therapist recently, after an upsetting situation reminded me just how badly I need it, but my efforts so far have been fruitless.

@cinnamonk Well, I wish you the best. It’s easy to slip back into old habits. Just try to remember your CBT training from before while you look for a new therapist.

@Rarebear thanks! Don’t I know it.

I am a high maintenance person. I need to wake up at least two hours earlier before work so I can eat, exercise, do my hair, do my make up, and take care of myself (and I won’t be leaving house before I’ve done with my morning routines unless it’s for life threatening reason). At night, I have regular skin care routine that involves 2 hours in bathroom and I’ll have to do it before sleeping. Yep, high maintenance in the morning and at night. I am not someone who can instantly wake up and go, go home and sleep type. Does it bother other people? Well, I don’t care as long as my activities don’t affect them. My self-maintenance is my personal requirement to feel good and feel like myself in a day.

I only go crazy if I’m confined to them and unable to escape.

The guy who repairs mobile phone masts, takes hours & I lose my signal.

@Unofficial_Member exactly. I don’t really know why it would bother anyone else, unless it were somehow affecting them directly. I could understand if someone were “high maintenance” and constantly take take taking and never reciprocating, that would be exhausting, but that seems like a completely separate behavior.

@ANef_is_Enuf Yep. I also think it’s very selfish of low maintenance people to expect that other people should also be as low maintenance as themselves. It is very common for me to hear this from a man before going to a party “alright that’s enough doing yourself in the mirror, you’re already good, no need to do this… do… anymore, the party is only 2 hour anyway, etc” which makes me furious and ask him to go first if he wants, as I won’t be leaving the house until I’m satisfied with myself. Really, people should just let other people to do self-maintenance without complaining. If high maintenance is bad then intolerance is worse.