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TrenchantWit's avatar

Ok so when you take a girl out on a date, and you open the door for her to the restaurant, movies, anywhere and they have that kind of foyer where theres another set of doors to actually get into the place, do you let her open the 2nd set of doors, or rush past her and open the 2nd set too?

Asked by TrenchantWit (285points) August 9th, 2008

(i let her open the 2nd set just for the record) i saw this happen at the movies and the dude doing it looked like a douche…ladies?

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jasongarrett's avatar

I’ll open the second set if I get to them first, but it usually doesn’t work out that way.

Walking in to the office one day a woman actually stepped aside and waited for me to open the second set for her. That’s the only time in my life I’ve seen that, but I kind of liked it.

wrestlemaniac's avatar

Yes it’s good impression if you show your manners a gentleman.

PupnTaco's avatar

Yes, open the second set.

jrpowell's avatar

I try to open the second set. But I won’t sprint to do it.

BirdlegLeft's avatar

I think either approach is okay depending on the situation. If my wife and I were on a “date” and not just out running errands, I would expect her stand to the side and allow me to get the second door for her. But, in any other circumstance, she would open the second door herself.

MrMeltedCrayon's avatar

It depends. If you have to rush past and push her out of the way to get the second set of doors, I’d advise against it. :P

But in all seriousness, just be respectful. Open doors for her, but only when it’s reasonable to do so. Don’t panic and think you have to do every little thing for her. Chivalry is nice, but I think it’s something that should be practiced by everyone toward everyone. I doubt she’ll make a huge, huge deal about having to open the occasional door while she’s with you. Unless, of course, the only way you’re capable of showing sincere gentlemanly behavior is through the opening of doors, in which case you’re kind of screwed anyway. Just don’t be an ass and slack, and it’ll show.

BirdlegLeft's avatar

What I was trying to say is, it’s as much being a gentleman as her being a “lady.” Know what I’m saying?

ariwriter's avatar

It depends on the situation. If she’s into sexual equality, she may be offended if you open everything for her.

allengreen's avatar

you may be over thinking this or trying too hard….

richardhenry's avatar

Just be close enough to her to lean past her to open the second set of doors. Don’t walk too fast, she’ll match your pace. If you’re running around like an idiot though, you’ll look like a douche.

TheHaight's avatar

I think you’re thinking too much on this. I could care less if I have to open the door or not.. But that’s me.

SuperMouse's avatar

A gentleman would open both doors and do it in a manner that does not make him look like a douche.

jholler's avatar

usually at restaurants they’re close enough together that with a little arm strength you can hold both at once.

8lightminutesaway's avatar

I try to open both if its reasonable, but I won’t rush past her to do so. However, If she opens the second door, I’ll try to grab it from behind her when its open, and hold it open for her to pass through, if that is reasonable as well.

breedmitch's avatar

If (as others here have said) she wants you to open the second set of doors for her, she wont get there first. She’ll allow you to reach the doors first. Don’t rush. A true lady will wait for you. Your opening the first door says a lot about you. How she approaches the second door says a lot about her.

LKidKyle1985's avatar

unless you want to look like you are trying too hard, go for it. but other wise i think it comes off as kinda odd to try too hard to open all the doors when it isn’t very practical.

generalspecific's avatar

as a lady, when the boy opens the first door for me, i go to the second and then hold that open for him. so it really doesn’t matter to me.. just the fact that a boy is making the effort to open the first door is pretty nice, i think

allengreen's avatar

SONNY: Alright, listen to me. You pull up right where she lives, right? Before you get outta the car, you lock both doors. Then, get outta the car, you walk over to her. You bring her over to the car. Dig out the key, put it in the lock and open the door for her. Then you let her get in. Then you close the door. Then you walk around the back of the car and look through the rear window. If she doesn’t reach over and lift up that button so that you can get in: dump her.

CALOGERO: Just like that?

SONNY: Listen to me, kid. If she doesn’t reach over and lift up that button so that you can get in, that means she’s a selfish broad and all you’re seeing is the tip of the iceberg. You dump her and you dump her fast.
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0106489/

Do what Robert de Niro would do——BE A MAN!

LKidKyle1985's avatar

Yeah, the good old Sonny test, never fails. I would do that before opening every door for her.

8lightminutesaway's avatar

lol, i think you should probably give her the benefit of the doubt unless she does it a bunch of times. that wouldn’t deter me though…

scamp's avatar

My SO is such a stickler about opening doors for me, he will actually hold me back so he can get the door. It gets a bit annoying, but I appreciate his thoughtfulness.

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