Do I detect a double standard between the genders in our society?

I’ve been in that situation more than once. While the attention is flattering to a degree, I don’t like it when a woman walks up and kisses me, hugs me, or worse, tries to stick her hand down inside my shirt. I’ve been in all of those situations, more than once. If I have to, and I do, respect women, I by God want to be respected in return. I’m not gay and I’m not an azz hole. I just expect them to keep their cotton pickin’ hands to themselves, and stay out of my personal space. End of Rant

I agree, but have never found myself in that kind of situation and if I did I would sic Mrs Squeeky on them and watch her rip them to shreds.

Mine would do the same thing, except it happens in the work place, which really is worse. But let a man pull that crap on a woman, and watch the sparks fly!

I wish I had never found myself I that situation, it’s beyond bizarre. I never thought I was all that anyway. I don’t even know what the damn attraction is.

Life isn’t fair. Yes, there is a double standard, NO there is nothing you can do or say.

I certainly have, especially recently. The double standard extends beyond that as well. Call it out and well…you’re a misogynist

Yes, there are a number of double standards between the genders, some negatively affecting men, some negatively affecting women. This seems to be one negatively affecting men: men’s complaints about sexual harassment are often not taken seriously, men are presumed to “always want it”, harassing men is “empowering” or something, I don’t know…it’s all crap. But the solution to double standards isn’t complacency. Even that complacency might be a double standard. Would “life isn’t fair” be the answer to a double standard that negatively affected women, @elbanditoroso?

Nobody should experience sexual harassment. Male or female. However, without suggesting men do not experience such behaviour from men or women, I think statistically you’d find many, many more women have been on the receiving end of inappropriate behaviour and touching. I’m still amazed when in a group of women, of all ages, how few say they haven’t been touched up or harassed at some point.

I’d also question who is doing the mocking if a man is harassed. Is it mostly men or is it mostly women? Is it both? Why might men feel embarrassed to mention they’d been touched or harassed?

It is largely skewed toward women but men have their share too, albeit a much smaller share. Men A. Do not stand up for ourselves and B. Are not taken seriously when we do by both women, other men or the very institutions that are supposed to remain impartial.

Yes, and it’s far from being the only double standard that affects men.

I’ve had my ass grabbed by strange women on multiple occasions. That’s technically sexual assault, but what cop is going to take that call seriously? What judge/jury is going to convict on that? Are they really going to put the woman on the sex offender registry?

I just ignored it. Ultimately, it’s more obnoxious and rude than traumatizing. It’s not really worth making a scene over.

Yes. A massive double standard. It just is what it is…

Well, most males do not consider it harassment; perhaps because they are wired differently or perhaps because the fear of physical harm is not something they live with. Most men are (and I know I am talking generalities) larger and more powerful than women and in our society make up the vast majority of predators. Men may fear other men but very few fear women mainly because women are a lot let prone to physical or sexual violence.

Makes you wonder about what it is like in a matrilineal society or, probably more comparable, an Amazon one. no, not the South American one, the aggressive, strong-willed warrior women one

Sexual attraction is an essential aspect of biological beings. When one feels the actions of another are uncomfortable, they should say so, and their will should be respected even without knowing why; easier said than done. Instinct directs actions. Consciousness, by those capable, is seldom involved, possibly on reserve awaiting an emotional alarm. When circumstances are comfortable, bodies will do what they do, a potential opportunity to fulfill the biological intention of continuing the specie. The double standard should respect and consciously communicate.

@Bill1939 !!!! Long time no hear from!

It is the politics of the “the oppressor” vs. “the oppressed”.

“The oppressed” always get a pass (to an extent) as a form of appeasement from “the opressor”. And even though women outnumber men, they get the same political adjustment as if they were an oppressed minority.

It is the same reason that white folks may not use the word nigger but black folks can. It is the same reason that it is somewhat permissible for people to illegally cross the Rio Grande going north bound, but punishable by imprisonment if they go southbound illegally. It is the same reason why failure to practice safe sex is regarded as a totally understandable lapse of good judgement, but driving while drunk is a serious offense. It is the basis for Affirmative Action. Etc.

It’s worse than you think, @NomoreY_A . Many radical feminists don’t think women are capable of rape/ sexual assault and there have been many instances where a boy is accused of rape, and his life is automatically ruined before a trial or investigation has even started. Women are given the benefit of the doubt. There have been females who have gotten away with things that would have sent a man to jail with no doubts or questions.

(Feminists want equality—yet don’t want female abusers to get the same punishments as male abusers)

I want to clarify something, so I don’t get attacked. When I say “Feminists” I’m not referring to the people that actually and truly want equality for men and women, and work hard to try and achieve that. I am referring to what people call “Feminazis”, who hate men and don’t know what equality means.

^^ uh-oh…

What? @josie

Very much so. Kind of like if a man sleeps around he’s cool but if a woman sleeps with lots of men then she’s a whore.

There are a ton of double standards,some very unfair .
A woman can wear mens clothes and still look cool and confident and even sexy.
A man wears women clothes and people stay well clear and think he is a fruit.
A women can be very flirty and nothing is said.
A guy does it and they think he is a pervert.
It swings both ways sometimes in the womens favour sometimes in the mans.

The only standard is morality and that would preclude BOTH situations. Unwanted attention is not right.