How traditional is your relationship?

Very traditional. I have his name and always use the title of “Mrs.” Although I have a decent, but rather modest, income, he’s undeniably the breadwinner. I take care of all the homemaking tasks – grocery shopping, cooking, laundry, cleaning, gardening, running errands, household finances – and he deals with the repairmen and mechanics. He’s also responsible for dog-walking duties, something I once loved doing but, courtesy of two bad knees, can no longer do without crippling pain.

As for whether this arrangement is common, well, the “evidence” tends to be anecdotal. Most of the couples I know tend to be similarly traditional or even more so; nearly all of my married, female friends are full-time wives.

I’m a 26 year old single male, but if I do get married I can imagine that it probably won’t be very traditional. I love to cook, so I don’t think my significant other would be doing the cooking duties all the time. And I’ll be fine if my significant other doesn’t want to take my last name, because I wouldn’t want to change my last name either. Oh and I also love to garden. And I like to do my own laundry. And I like to ask for directions when I’m lost and if my google maps isn’t working.

Traditionally speaking, very untraditional. I have never been married, have no children, and have no girlfriend. (I like being single!)

Traditional-ish, I’m the sole breadwinner, we do not have and probably will not have children by choice. My wife is an educated professional but is not working. I cook, she cooks. I do yardwork, she does too. I kill spiders and she runs the other way. I like beer and video games, she likes beer and video games. We watch cheezy horror movies together, play with our dog and sit by the firepit at night. I mountain bike, she does crafts. I play guitar, she plays piano. In an introvert, she is an extrovert.

I’m in my early 50’s, never married, raising my daughter who is 10. Her father is deceased.

I’m the sole breadwinner (except for some survivor’s benefits).

Even though I’m not in a relationship, I think this is pretty untraditional.

I am divorced but my marriage was fairly traditional during the years I was raising my daughter. I did the typical stay at home mom stuff, cooking, cleaning, gardening, pet care, volunteered at my daughters schools, was bus stop mom for the neighbor kids and taught a 4-H class.
My ex would help with the housework and did the mowing, heavy lifting stuff. He sometimes cooked and made breakfast on the weekends.

it was fine during that time and I was happy in my role but was also happy when I went to work part time when my daughter was in 6th grade.
I think that having a parent in the home is nice, if one can do that, either physically or financially if one is not a single parent but…a lot of women in my generation paid the price for spending years out of the work force and then going through mid-lfe divorces. I think the best of both worlds would be flexible parenting where nobody had to sacrifice their earning potential during the formative years. I am all for stay at home dads but either way, as always, there are major trade offs. Time for money and money for time.

Non traditional I suppose.

My wife did not take my last name and doesn’t use “Mrs.” at all.

We both are educated with advanced degrees. We both work full-time and make about the same salary.

We contribute to raising our daughter equally.

We both cook, but my wife is much better at it than me. We both clean and do laundry, but I’m much better at those than her.

Neither of us do yard work since we both suck at it, so I hire somebody.

I do have a penis and she a vagina, so there’s that.

I wouldn’t call us traditional, but for a couple our age, I wouldn’t say we’re unusual either.

We both work as software engineers. I make slightly more than he does. We split the rent 50/50, I pay for groceries, and he pays utilities (these come out roughly equal). We alternate paying for dinners out and other dates. Our finances are otherwise separate. He’s paying off massive student loans while I’m debt-free. Pooling our finances someday will be good for him.

We both cook (he does the cooking a little more often than I do), we both clean, we both get to be the little spoon. He drives because the car is his and because I hate driving.

We aren’t at a point yet where this is imminent, but he is much more enthusiastic about the concept of kids than I am, although I’m warming up to the idea. I do have a hard rule though (and he knows this) against ever being pregnant, so when it comes down to it we’ll be looking at adoption or surrogacy. Of the two options, he prefers surrogacy and I prefer adoption, lol. If we do surrogacy, I hope we will just use his sperm and the eggs of the surrogate. I don’t really want to pass on my shit genes, and it also seems much less medically complex than putting my eggs into another woman, however that even works. So that, if it happens, will be pretty non-traditional, but that’s still some distance down the road.

I expect, if/when we have kids, that I will no longer work full-time, simply because I am the one of the two of us who less enjoys working at a corporation, and we like the idea of having a parent in the home with the kid(s). I hope and expect to always have projects going on from the home even if I’m not employed, which is easy to do in my field.

Pretty fucking traditional.

We have been married for 40 years and a few days.

We used to apologize to our kids because they only had two parents and four grandparents while all their friends has several more.

Same as above. In my case, 36 years, whol’da thunk it?

Mixed bag for us, for 20+ years.
I’m the major breadwinner, but she did take on a whole new career about ten years ago and earns quite a bit more than she used to. She does the laundry, most of the time, and she cooks more than often than I do but I make dinner a few times a week. I’m usually to one to fix something. She does all the painting (walls and fine art) in the household and she’s very good at it.
Let’s say our roles seem traditional but there is no problem to switch it around whenever it’s needed or even just handy.

Oh, right, and I kill the bugs.

I hate bugs. But Matt hates them more.

Well, I am a woman who has been married to another woman for almost 16 years, so completely non-traditional.

She calls for our butler to disperse of nasty bugs such as wasps or spiders while I run out the door screaming like a 5yr old girl who lost her favourite dolly.
Very traditional as it goes because both daddy & grandpa were hopeless wimps too.

We both work part time and take turns watching the kids, which we have.
Our kids have non-hyphenated last names.
She makes more than me, but only because she’s smarter and better educated.
She’s messier than me
I do most of the cleaning, except the laundry. I hate doing laundry
We’re married and share finances
I do the gross chores and heavy lifting
I mow, she weed whacks
We have oppositey naughty bits
We date other people of varying genders sometimes, but not all the time
Our sex life has taken different power dynamics over the years
I’m a better cook, but she’s pretty good too
We own a house that we built together

I dunno.. 5/10?

We both cook, clean, and take care of the furry kids. I do more of the laundry and the dishes, he vacuums almost exclusively. We’re both happy with that, I think. He also takes good care of our bikes.

I never thought I’d take anybody’s last name, but I’m tempted simply because it’s a nice name.

Neither one of us kills bugs. We high-fived when we talked about that, then checked our hands for spiders of irony.