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missjena's avatar

Would you rather have a really ugly girlfriend who was skinny or a pretty girlfriend whose overweight?

Asked by missjena (910points) August 13th, 2008 from iPhone
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trumi's avatar

Such a sad question.

davem's avatar

How much overweight?

AstroChuck's avatar

Who’s overweight.
It would depend on just how big we’re talking about. I’d personally rather have someone with a little meat on them than some scarecrow.

RandomMrdan's avatar

definitely the pretty overweight girl…she can lose weight with help…where as ugly can’t be changed without a lot of expensive surgeries.

And like Chuck said, nothing wrong with a bit of meat on their bones.

tinyfaery's avatar

I have already moderated myself! Ugh!

davem's avatar

and what is it that makes the ugly girl ugly? Does she have a hair lip, moles with hair on her face, bad teeth….what? I can’t decide, I like both, because after you start getting to know someones personality…well to me the ugly girl, looks prettier and the fat girl looks prettier too – does the fat girl have a thyroid problem and can it be fixed with surgery or does she just eat to be eating. I’d have to actually see both of them and be with both of them to get to know them, before I could decide.

trumi's avatar

@dave: I’ll try to arrange a hypothetical dinner for you.

aidje's avatar

How about healthy? Is that an option?

RandomMrdan's avatar

am I the only one who has made a choice so far?...yep I am

davem's avatar

Well I can’t make a choice, I’ve went for women because of their looks, I’m not going to sit here and degrade a woman, but some of them where just horrible.
I’ve dated larger women who were attractive great and some not so great, that started out looking pretty, but ended up looking ugly, because of their personality.
I’ve dated skinny women who weren’t very attractive and were sweet, with a great personality & that made them pretty – and not so sweet, and made them just as unattractive as they looked.
So I can’t choose…I have to meet them and be with them to find out. All women to me are beautiful, fat or skinny, something attractive will come out in each. It’s their personality that will turn me off!

RandomMrdan's avatar

@dave then move onto another question =)

buster's avatar

I have to pick the one that could tolerate me.

davem's avatar

Random okay, new here, didn’t know I couldn’t keep posting. Apologies to all!

Randy's avatar

I pick neither! I can find better for myself than these two choices. =)

trumi's avatar

@dave: You’re cool. Everyone but a few dozen are new, just some are newer than others.

I think we can all agree that personality is the biggest factor in dating someone, and that the question is both so shallow and broad that there is no answer.

So while you continue to ramble, Dan is the only one shallow enough to answer.

We all have flaws :D

xxporkxsodaxx's avatar

Neither, I’ll be sure to go to the Rolls Royce dealer of girlfriends instead Kia dealer, damnit Randy, you beat me!

RandomMrdan's avatar

@trumi shallow for answering a hypothetical question? There is no reason to settle for mediocrity, when I can get what I want. Everyone is shallow regardless of what they may say…even Davem

RandomMrdan's avatar

shallow to a certain extent I should say

trumi's avatar

@dan; For any relationship to work you have to be attracted to the other person. Some people just happen to care more about looks than others.

RandomMrdan's avatar

and I can refer to my original answer…if the pretty girl is pretty…she has the ability to lose weight to become much more attractive than someone who is grossly obese.

I had two choices, I made the best of the two in my opinion. I don’t recall reading any other choices of healthy one, go find someone else, or any of the sort.

I am not arguing what a relationship needs to work.

AstroChuck's avatar

If you’re having trouble deciding fat or thin, think about how much air you prefer to put in your inflatable love doll.

trumi's avatar

Really, I think we should all stop answering such a stupid, shallow, pathetic question. Except for a few clever answers, the whole thing is bunk.

Goodnight all.

RandomMrdan's avatar

@missjena I thought the question was good, it seems we have too many people that think they are above making answers to hypothetical questions.

AstroChuck's avatar

What’s wrong with stupid, shallow, pathetic questions?

LKidKyle1985's avatar

Yeah, theres not much you can do with a skinny girl whos already ugly. I mean seriously. but if shes pretty and over weight, then she is already pretty, the only negative is shes over weight, and well theres always a chance to fix that. Which you should, unless diabetes and heart attacks are turn ons for you.

redsgirl4eva's avatar

I will take this for guys. I don’t care about looks what is inside means more then looks to me. Looks are only skin deep but what inside goes through their whole body. This is true for both men and women.

LKidKyle1985's avatar

Hey look people, I found the most beautiful people on earth, personality wise.
http://www.trueugly.com/images/ugly-smile.jpg
http://www.grimmemennesker.dk/ugly-people-396.htm
Lets be honest with ourselves, No one on these forums would really give these people much of a chance to show their personality to us. Why? because they are ugly. I am just being real here. Besides, all this people are beautiful on the inside stuff, its really dodging the original question isn’t it?

RandomMrdan's avatar

oh yes, inner beauty at it’s finest. I can’t wait to go meet someone like that and get to know their inner beauty.

@anyone who dodges the answer, way to be cliche

TheHaight's avatar

I’m “dodging” the answer randommrdan because this is my real answer: its a shallow question. I’d choose neither, just someone that is healthy with a wonderful personality.

RandomMrdan's avatar

for the sake of the question, there were only two choices. obviously, I wouldn’t date a fat girl, or an ugly girl…haha aren’t we all shallow? obviously I would prefer someone healthy, attractive, personal and all that good stuff too.

LKidKyle1985's avatar

its just a hypothetical question meant to find out what we value more, healthy and ugly, or attractive and unhealthy. like if you had to choose one or the other. Its like asking, if you had to be stranded on an island, who would you want to be stranded with. And then replying, I wouldnt want to be stranded on an island…. thats kinda dodging the question.

TheHaight's avatar

lKidKyle….thats an easy question and very different. To answer it: I’d want to be stranded on an island with my family! What missjena asked is, to me, a question I really cant answer. Will that ugly skinny girl have a good personality? will that pretty overweight girl have a good personality? i’m not dodging the question and I dont’ think anyone is. Its just a hard question to answer. ALSO to add- My boyfriend is a bit overweight, very attractive/tall AND has the best personality…..ever! thats why it’s such a hard question for me to answer.

LKidKyle1985's avatar

hmmm, i guess when i think about it, it seems like women typically go for personality over looks. You always here someone say something like, oh shes with THAT guy??? and we all know what that means. And you hear that much more often than, Hes with her??? So I guess women are looking for a guy whos masculine (and i dont just mean people with macho attitudes), which doesn’t necessarily require him to be attractive, And men look for women who are feminine, which does typically require them to be within a reasonable weight and attractiveness. obviously personality is a factor for both, but for men, its a factor that comes after the initial introduction, and women, its usually something they look for right away.

ideabrian's avatar

Don’t we only like people that make us feel good?

wildflower's avatar

hmm…..has anyone considered asking the equivalent boyfriend question?? It’d be interesting to see…

sndfreQ's avatar

Looks fade over time…like a great pair of jeans, you want someone who makes you feel comfortable and happy to be close to your skin as time “wears on.”

While it is natural for people to seek gratification in the superficial details, one who has reached maturity in understanding love has gained the perspecuity to realize what’s truly important in their search for a long-term companion.

wildflower's avatar

@sndfreQ: Reminds me of a Bon Jovi song (this’ll probably make your ears bleed, but here goes): Like my favorite pair of old blue jeans, the skin I’m in’s alright with me – it’s not old, just older

sndfreQ's avatar

@wildflower: nice; you hit my demographic on that one!

charliecompany34's avatar

pretty overweight girl. just look at the potential.

flameboi's avatar

I just don’t care if she is overweight or not (after dating an average girl very average and a former Prada model, I know what I’m taking about) After years go by, you learn that, whats outside is meaningless, skinny, overweight, atractive or not, there is always something more beyond everything, more than meets the eye…

Bri_L's avatar

I would rather have one I gave a damn about.

kevbo's avatar

I think I’d choose the pretty girl who was overweight. Say, is she about a size 14?

sndfreQ's avatar

LOL kev! “Don’t you hurt my Fi-fi!”

Bri_L's avatar

Given the choices, girl who is over weight.

@ kevbo – nice reference (interensting. your icon and 4:10 at this link

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CfrHehFzVtk&feature=related just kidding)

RedmannX5's avatar

I’d much rather have a pretty girl who was a little overweight. I actually don’t think skinny girls are attractive. Especially too skinny. I can handle a little cushion for the pushin’

Bri_L's avatar

@ redmannx5 – on the money!

RedmannX5's avatar

haha why thank you!

kevbo's avatar

@Bri L- Yeah, that’s a good one. ;-) Maybe a cross between that and this.

Bri_L's avatar

@kevbo – Haha. Babyruth! hehe.

kleinzeit's avatar

The pretty overweight one.

She would however have to smell amazing, have lovely hair, be amazing in bed, have impecable manners, be sociable, faithful, funny, have similar values to mine and most of all be happy.

There, that was easy.

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