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Are you quiet and often live inside your head?

Asked by idream3r (434points) November 16th, 2017

I’ve often been told that I am really really quiet. The thing is, I am one of those people that it takes me a while to get comfortable around people. I am really nice and interact well with others but I am afraid to really be myself around people I’ve just met or known for just a short amount of time. I have anxiety and a bit of depression but I am working on that.

I often live inside my head and often make up scenarios & characters on how I would like my life to be like. Things I wish I would of done differently . I am 28 and haven’t really experienced life that much. The best way to describe myself is like Walter Mitty. Not sure if you’ve seen the movie. I am just like that, you can call me a Day Dreamer. I would really love to discover the world and meet new people and see new places like the movie. I am planning on doing that real soon.

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Hawaii_Jake's avatar

Good question.

I’ve been single for a long time, and I’m used to being alone. The answer is yes, I live inside my head. I also practice daily meditation, which puts me even more in my head or perhaps I transcend my head, but let’s not get woo woo.

I don’t think there’s anything in the world at all wrong with being inside one’s head as long as we’re able to get our daily work done. If it’s interfering with responsibilities, then it needs to be talked about with a professional.

janbb's avatar

I am constantly inside my own head – so much so that I sometimes forget what I have been doing or have done. But I also really love engaging with other people, particularly in small intimate groups.

Inspired_2write's avatar

In the last few years I have become more reticent as I am concentrating on creative ideas, writing, and photography and mulling over the past with a more discerning and spiritual way of understanding my part in life at certain times in my life and have much more patience with others and willing to give people a chance. I have seen so much pain in various forms as an observer of life situations, human behaviours etc
I have grown more from asking myself “why” things , people, circumstances happen and from this I have grown to understand better the human condition throughout life phases of growth.
Impartiality affords more meaning and understanding much like a Judge in Court has to have in order to pronounce a correct judgement .

rojo's avatar

I have been told so.

I do tend to thing things through and that does seem to mitigate the desire to blurt out the first thing that pops into my head.

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

It sounds as if you are many of us on Fluther…Introverts. There is nothing wrong with being one. It just is.

There is a benefit to stretching yourself by doing things outside your comfort zone, like travelling. My partner and I visit several different companies a year. He is more introverted than I am, so when it comes to paying for a ticket or meal, I handle it. On the rare occasion that there is a disagreement, we know to give each other some time to mentally sort it out before discussing it again.

Give yourself a break. As long as you are being nice to others and honest to yourself, you are on the right track.

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