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Why do people just laugh at sexual harassment?

Asked by dopeguru (1343points) January 12th, 2018

I told my female friends about how my dad comments on my breasts when my mom isn’t around, and how it makes me feel uncomfortable, and their initial reaction was to crack up. Which made me feel AWFUL! I just ignored them and went home crying.

Even I do this. I laugh when someone catcalls me or looks at me like they want to “eat” me. Its wrong, but the reaction is laughter or smiling. Why is this?

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KNOWITALL's avatar

Laughter is easier than confronting an RL issue, like your biological father making inappropriate comments on your body. They are probably laughing because it’s pretty outlandish.

snowberry's avatar

^^ Agreed. And his behavior is unacceptable!

So what are you going to do about it?

anniereborn's avatar

A lot of people laugh when something makes them feel uncomfortable or nervous.

Dutchess_III's avatar

How old are you @dopeguru. Your father is so, so wrong to comment on your body that way.

I think women are taught from a young age, that it is important to not upset anyone, to always be smiling and laughing and attractive. We’re taught to deflect bad behaviors by laughing, instead of direct confrontation. Direct confrontation is for boys. Girls must giggle charmingly. So we are taught.

imrainmaker's avatar

Have you told this to your mother?

kritiper's avatar

Because there seems to be no minimally acceptable amount. Any amount, ANY, seems destined, real or imaginary, for maximum punishment of one sort or another, by some people. But that is an abnormal position since men and women are sexual animals and interactions of a sexual nature are only normal.

KNOWITALL's avatar

@kritiper What? Are you saying incestuous feelings are natural?

kritiper's avatar

@KNOWITALL In varying degrees, yes. Most men understand it more than most women, IMO.

KNOWITALL's avatar

@kritiper Even if that’s true, actually commenting lewd things about your daughters body is not normal. To me it’s a major red flag to stay away from him or risk escalation or action. What is your recommendation for her?

kritiper's avatar

@KNOWITALL I was answering the main question, not going into details.

imrainmaker's avatar

I agree with @KNOWITALL – having some sort of feelings and expressing them out loud are two different things. That’s not normal in my opinion too!

KNOWITALL's avatar

@kritiper If you ever want to discuss furrther, let me know. I’m familiar & very interested in the psychology.

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kritiper's avatar

@KNOWITALL and @dopeguru I would suggest the person in question contact a psychologist with their county’s dept of health to discuss the problem.

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