He writes poetry about me but he won't talk or meet up with me?
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February 2nd, 2018
Soooo… I saw this guy when I met with a mutual friend. This was at his poetry reading. We didn’t talk but we made eye contact. A month later I wrote to him on social media, and he was being flirty but also cautious because he thinks I’m dating his friend (which isn’t true, we are just platonic). He said goodbye to me about 3 times in one day but I kept writing, because I was too curious. He told me he wishes I came to him first. He then sent me this poem he wrote about that night and me and shared it on social media which now has 10k views (he is a semi-famous poet) I asked him if he wants to ever meet or chat, and he said no. But he also got really anxious when I was at the movies and didn’t respond to him for a few hours when he was writing to me. I’m really dizzy because I don’t understand how someone can write this incredible poetry about me but also wants to not be talking. Any mind readers out there?
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He probably wrote that poem ages ago and is just humoring you.
^ no, it rhymes with my name and last name, and he sent photos as he was writing. I even wrote one line!
A few days ago you asked about a guy you were sleeping with. You might want to space your boyfriends out.
You’re being played. He strings you along because you allow it and he gets some kind of amusement from it. He has no intention of ever entering into a relationship with you, but keeps open the possibility of a booty call should he find himself with nothing else to do one night.
Give an Ultimatum. Say either he agrees to meet up or you stop talking. what he’s doing is so sketchy that you are better off getting rid of him before you get hurt or something.
He’s a a poet who may be more in love with the idea of love than the actuality.
My dear sweet Dopey Guru,
My little silly friend
I don’t want to be near you
This infatuation needs to end
I refuse to tell you any lies,
So I avoid you when I can
There’s something about how you deal with guys
That put fear in any man.
@elbanditoroso HAHAHAHA.
Just because I share EVERY date I went to here doesn’t mean I go on a lot of dates! I’ve only went on dates with one guy in the past 4 months. This guy doesn’t even KNOW me, he only saw me once.
I’ve found many male artists to be passionate and intense in relationships, so your comments about him wishing you’d dated him first intrigue me. Maybe he doesn’t want anyone’s leftovers so to speak, guys can be funny that way. I’m not a fan of ultimatums, but I’d either honestly communicate your frustration and confusion, or just let him go on his way.
Have you told him that you are not dating his friend?
What a lot of hard work just to try and get a relationship off the ground, why would you even be bothered, too much for me!
Perhaps he isn’t into catfish dinners.
You’ve already put a great deal of time and effort into a connection that’s going nowhere. Why not, if you’ve been enjoying the journey, and having some fun, without any serious expectations.
It’s rather special that you’ve been some guy’s muse.
Rattle, rattle, flutter, flutter. Now where’s my score card?
Is this the guy that you have no interest in having a relationship with, the guy whose wiggle you might have broken, the guy that doesn’t want a comittment, the guy who doesn’t love you, the guy who doesn’t like you, the guy who told you he isn’t interested in you, the guy who snores, or the guy who is terrible in bed, or the guy that’s boring or???
Just curious. I’m trying to keep track.
My thought throughout reading your question was @Dutchess_III ‘s question above: did you tell him you weren’t ever dating his friend?
The “He told me he wishes I came to him first” seems like a plenty-good reason, if not.
But, as @chyna pointed out, it sounds like you’re already in an intimate relationship or recent situation with someone else? Is it possible he knows about that?
Just keep swimming * swimming * swimming…
That’s what we doOoo.
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