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I get this feeling from people, please tell me if I am wrong(rest in details)?

Asked by SQUEEKY2 (19102points) March 11th, 2018

I want to give a few examples…
If you suddenly turn and deck the bully, you are then viewed as the aggressor , I get this feeling from people am I wrong?

If you don’t want to have children people automatically think you dislike children, I get this feeling from people am I wrong?

If you are a firearm enthusiast, people think you are against any kind of gun control laws, I get this feeling from people am I wrong?

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thisismyusername's avatar

You’re wrong.

@SQUEEKY2: “If you don’t want to have children people automatically think you dislike children.”

I believe you when you say that you have experienced some pushback about not having kids. However, this seems so far-fetched in my universe to almost seem fictional. If you are really getting harassed for this (seems to be a long struggle for you), move to Massachusetts. It’s literally not a thing here – as in not a single person will ever say anything to you about not having kids.

@SQUEEKY2: “If you are a firearm enthusiast, people think you are against any kind of gun control laws.”

I make all kinds of assumptions about “firearm enthusiasts” – but none of them have much to do with being against gun control laws.

Zaku's avatar

“If you suddenly turn and deck the bully, you are then viewed as the aggressor , I get this feeling from people am I wrong?”
Depends on what the bully did to warrant being considered a bully and/or action. I usually just took steps to keep from getting hurt, and to signal that I would hurt them if they continued. However if I agree someone was bullying, I tend to call them the aggressor and say they were at cause, though a counter-attack might be out of proportion. I give a lot of leeway to people who take threats seriously and are reasonably afraid a bully may act as they’re implying.

However it is certainly a common story that gets discussed a lot online that schools have punished students for fighting with bullies. I tend to sympathize and think the bully is responsible for what they get… though it really depends on the specific case.

“If you don’t want to have children people automatically think you dislike children, I get this feeling from people am I wrong?”
Uh, some people might tend to assume that, but I certainly don’t, and offhand I can’t think of anyone I know that I think thinks that way.

“If you are a firearm enthusiast, people think you are against any kind of gun control laws, I get this feeling from people am I wrong?”
I don’t think that. Some people might short-circuit their arguments/thinking to something like that, but I think it’s pretty clearly not accurate.

KNOWITALL's avatar

You aren’t wrong, I’ve experienced all three.

With bullied you have to fight back or they won’t stop.

If you choose not to have kids, to some you must dislike them, which is ignorant supposition.

You already know I’m a gun owner who believes in some form of oversight or legislation that addresses the issue of mass killings.

Maybe you care what other people think too much. It’s interesting to discuss but I truly don’t let others opinions bother me in the slightest.

seawulf575's avatar

I think you are right, to a point. Our society is so screwed up, everyone looks at every topic as an all-or-nothing thing. If you deck the bully then you are a violent person…that might be how they view things. It could be that you were sticking up for a weaker person. It might have been that you had put up with their crap for a long time, you might have just hit your limit. But people tend to bring their judgments to the party. And it seems like the more political the topic, the more polarized the opinion.

zenvelo's avatar

It is no different from being told that since I am in favor of restrictions on assault weapons and unrestricted sales of handguns that I am a gun hater, am I wrong?

SQUEEKY2's avatar

@zenvelo yeah because you made it sound like you wanted a hell of a lot more than just that, we all want that.

kritiper's avatar

I don’t think it applies to 100% of people. It’s just that the objectors are more vocal, so you notice them more.

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