Why do people call it “the hard way of learning,” if a girl becomes knocked up with a guy who doesn’t treat her good?

Your question is confusing. The title is about a girl being treated badly by her guy, but the detail is about a normal way a relationship develops. Which situation are you describing?

Please re read. In the description, I talked about going through BAD marriges. I know that’s the normal way relationships develope. But the queation is: why do some people say going through that with someone who doesn’t treat you good is the “hard way.”

Charished life or not, a baby is a LOT of work. An investment of sorts. Not just financially, but you mixed your genes with a jerk.

Raising a child without the other parent, is the “hard” way. Not just for the mother, but also the child.

I know multiple women, who were basically forced to be sterilized by their mother. The inference is that the woman simply chooses the wrong men to procreate with. I can think of about a dozen women who have multiple kids, from multiple men, and none of the fathers are involved. The mother’s way of handling that, is to remove pregnancy as an option. I’m not saying that I support this, but it is effective in stopping more unwanted children.

It’s interesting that I never really thought about all those girls, and the implications of essentially forcing someone to be sterile. It’s pretty crazy…

@Anonymousgirl88 Then you already answered your question. The lesson: The woman should know better than marrying a man who doesn’t love them, lest alone having babies, unless the marriage is forced.

Maybe your definition of “hard way” is more like the relationship benefits the woman? I don’t think that’s really what it means in this situation.

You keep asking this. I don’t understand why it is so hard for you to understand. If you don’t think being pregnant, having a baby and raising a child on your own is very difficult, then you shouldn’t be fucking anyone. End of story,

@janbb this is a follow-up of other questions?

many, many

I think it is best explained by Will Rogers:

“There are three kinds of men. The one that learns by reading. The few who learn by observation. The rest of them have to pee on the electric fence for themselves”.

Learning the hard way, means you will suffer because you aren’t listening to others telling you how bad things can be.

For example: Your grandma says, Honey you make sure to marry a man with a good job, don’t learn the hard way like I did.

What she means: She suffered because she married a man who DIDN’T have a good job, and they had to go through many hard times. She doesn’t want you to have to go through what she did.

Make sense?

So basically sometimes in life we do things, thinking, “It’s not gonna get that bad,” until it actually gets that bad. @KNOWITALL – For the example you used about the grandma saying that to her grand daughter, the girl might think, “But I care about this mad. So what’s the big deal? What if I want it to get that that far
(far – meaning to the point of marrige, and having a kid),”
until that actually happens, and she sees the choice that she made can effect her future greatly.
The hard way to a bad situation wouldn’t be just two people not working out. It would be, if all of the hypotheticals and “what if’s” actually happenend. Because that’s what people tend to think about, and sometimes want, till it happens, and they see the people that told them what could become of the situation is going to get really bad.
Idk if I explained it right.

You get it. Life is all about choices, and that determines your fate. If you love someone you don’t hide. You date, live together maybe, then see if you want to keep eachother after the new wears off. No need to rush it, life doesnr revolve around men, try art or travel, get educated and have a fine life alone. Then the perfect man finds you, and you’re a catch! #BossLady

Learning things “the hard way” means that someone isn’t smart enough, or perceptive enough, to understand the likely trajectory of a situation, even though it has been demonstrated, and explained to them multiple times, in many different ways. Offen that’s because that person believes themselves to be “special”, or their situation to be “unique” when in reality the same shit has been happening to people who don’t want to see, or didn’t want to deal with reality, or don’t bother to make a reasonable plan in advance, for time immemorial. This is mothing new. But it’s still “learning the hard way.”

Smart people pay attention, and learn from the mistakes of others, without having to make the same mistakes themselves.