Is this client asking too much?

A client booked me to be their wedding photographer last year and paid their initial deposit. Their wedding is at the end of July and I’ve been trying to set up the final meeting to go over the details. They can also choose to pay their remaining balance at this meeting or wait until a week before the wedding to pay it off according to the contract. We had a date set up twice already but they cancelled last minute both times, claiming they’re busy people. Again today they’ve contacted me and asked to set up another day but this time they’ve asked for it to be at 8:30pm on a weekday and it’s a 45 minute drive for me each way. With everything we need to go over, I’m looking at getting home well past 10:00pm. To me, this isn’t something a photographer would normally do for a client. Am I correct? This is well outside of my normal business hours listed on my site. Of course weddings go much later but as far as meeting times, I have never met anyone so late before. Would it be considered rude of me to turn down this meeting request? If I do turn it down, how should I word it?