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(Taurus) men: does it make sense to get upset with a girl you've only met online because she won't buy you a gift before meeting you in person?

Asked by Introverted_Leo (1957points) June 17th, 2018

Context: I was talking to a man (who happens to be a Taurus) on a dating app. Unfortunately, he was out of the country at the time and wouldn’t be back for another month, so we just texted and talked on the phone.

Things got weird in conversation. At one point, he said he wanted to wire me some money because he liked me. At first I thought he was kidding, but then I realized he was being serious. I said I don’t need your money; I just want to get to know you. (Red flag #1. Oddly enough, this also seems like a very Taurus thing to do, lol.)

Hoped he’d learned his lesson. Nope. Some days later, he asked me if I could get him a gift—an iTunes card, he said. (Apparently he wanted me to buy it then send him a picture of the barcode.) I’m like why would I buy you a gift when we don’t even know each other and haven’t even met yet? I thought the subject had passed as a joke, but then he brought it up another two or so times again. Worse, he started “witholding” information about himself (on little questions like “what’s your favorite drink?”) simply because I hadn’t bought him the gift card yet. (Petty much?)

I told him I’m not okay with him demanding gifts from me and he should have given me the chance to get to know him first so I could give him a gift on my own volition if I so chose to. Apparently, he wasn’t too happy about this. He said this wasn’t about money but that he needed to “evaluate” my “financial abilities,” which honestly sounds like a very materialist Taurus thing to say; it also sounds like a very unreasonable thing to say. “I’m not just ready to spend energy and time if my girl can’t afford the cheapest things for me.” Literally his words.

Has this ever happened to anyone before? O.O I just don’t understand how this could ever be considered normal or logical in any man’s mind. Am I going nuts, or is this man out of his mind? (In any case, it’s needless to say he won’t be getting the chance to meet me.)

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