Are the things people routinely say to lessen grief actually making it worse?

I’m referring to the comforting words that leave a backdoor open, some chance of seeing the deceased again some day. For example, people have told me “I’m sure he misses you, too” or “She’s in a better place now.”

Statements like that seem to imply that there is no real loss. That it’s temporary, and only lasts until your own death. Because if my loved one can still miss me, or be happy in their better place, how are they really gone?

I think that can be comforting in the moment, and I’m sure it’s well-intentioned. However, I’ve noticed a feeling of calm when I did the painful work of actually accepting loss, instead of telling myself a soothing story.

What do you think?