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Is it love?

Asked by luvorlust (12points) August 23rd, 2008 from iPhone

I have never cheated in my life and never plan to either. But I’ve recently started dating this great guy and I adore him. He’s different (in a good way) but I always worry about him cause he cuts and does drugs but I try to be there to help him. He’s a sweetheart and I’ve never felt this way about anyone. He’s like the guy version of me accept I’ve never done drugs but I stopped cutting and I care about him with all my heart I sometimes don’t get sleep at night because I worry so much.

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tinyfaery's avatar

If you have to ask, I’d say no.

babygalll's avatar

I don’t know if it’s love, but you obviously care a lot for him on some level. Talk to him about getting some help and be a supportive friend. I don’t know if you want to be in a relationship with someone who is into drugs and cutting.

luvorlust's avatar

but the thing is I don’t plan on ever leaving him I was once him and in that same boat but I trust him with everything and anything I do and say and there is nothing sexual between us and I’m 15 and he’s 16

cheebdragon's avatar

Your 15…...everything will be different next year, and in 5–10 years you probably won’t even be friends.

Judi's avatar

It’s called co-dependence, not love. Sorry honey, this is a train wreck waiting to happen. You sound like me at 15 and I wasted a lot of years thinking I didn’t deserve better. You can do better, I promise. I have and so will you.

Cardinal's avatar

You are an idiot wanting to spend time with a junkie! The drugs will always mean more to him then you ever will. Why not just drop out of school and get PG, then you will be set for a life of disappointments.

Please listen to what the girls on this site are saying, many have been there and survived, they know what is going on in your life and the pitfalls.

molly's avatar

although it’s very possible that this is a trainwreck waiting to happen and i would tread lightly, i understand how hard it is to detach yourself from someone you really care about, despite (and sometimes because of) their problems. i’ve been in similar shoes to yours more than once and i still can’t tell when it is or isn’t worth it to do so, but to answer your question: it may or may not be love, it’s possible that it is, but that doesn’t mean it’s the best idea to pursue it. help him all you can and if that isn’t enough, you may have to move on.

but good luck with him!

Poser's avatar

No it’s not love. It’s teenage infatuation.

That’s not what you want to hear, I know, but listen to the Fluther voices of experience and wisdom.

ninjaxmarc's avatar

High school puppy love.

beccalynnx's avatar

it’s a form of love, but maybe not the love relationship you are thinkng of. i’m in a semi-similar relationship right now. my boy [was] an alchoholic, pretty much. i’ve known him for while, and he;s had a rought past. so in both our understanding, his drinking was his way to forget the past. but whenever we are together, no matter where we are, we’re happy and conent. and he has stopped drinking recently. we are a lot alike, though we are still so much different. i’m not sure if he has quit for good, but i’m hopng and waiting.

i think that there’s a posibility that it’s love, but honey, don’t rush it. if it’s love, you’ll be together when you are both matured and ready. for now, be a good friend for him, be there for him. let it grow into what it’s meant to be, but don’t force it, don’t rush it.

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