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Why do girls give more gifts and trinkets than the boys?

Asked by Dutchess_III (46808points) March 28th, 2019

I know I’m kind of on a child behavior kick but that’s how it goes.

Yesterday I stopped by to see my middle daughter and the 6 year old twins. Mom gave them a heads up that I was coming. We’ve been out of touch for a while, so they were both equally happy to see me and Kale gave me a grand tour of their new place.
Savannah also gave me a picture she had colored just for me, as well as a necklace she had made in school.
When I got home and went to put the picture on the fridge I realized that literally every drawing, every picture, every note was from one of my grand daughters (I need more fridge space!) Nothing colored or drawn or written was from any of my grandsons.

Why do you think that is?

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kritiper's avatar

Because girls value the act of giving more.
Like when they remember anniversaries. Anniversaries for THIS, anniversaries for THAT…
Every little thing.
I guess guys can’t be bothered to remember all those little “unimportant” details…

Dutchess_III's avatar

My ex used to get pissed because I never remembered our anniversary.
Rick never remembers my birthday…I decided it’s a hassle anyway, so I quit acknowledging his. Yeah, he got pissed!

gorillapaws's avatar

Questions I have:
1. Is it actually true that young girls give gifts more often than young boys? or is this an inaccurate assumption derived from anecdotes?

2. If it is true, is it because young girls are being socialized into this behavior, is it hardwired into females or some combination of the two?

3. If it’s hardwired, what are the potential benefits from an evolutionary standpoint? My first thoughts are whether it’s related to Altruism and Group Selection?

Interesting question.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Good questions @gorillapaws.

It could be an inaccurate assumption derived from anecdotes. I’ll check with others.

I don’t know if it’s socially encouraged or if it’s just something girls do.

If it’s hardwired, I assume it’s a way to keep the masses appeased and calm. I have noticed, in the past anyway, that on television talk shows, women do a lot of “giggling.” The men don’t.

zenvelo's avatar

Your sample selection is small; perhaps it is just that granddaughters are more in tune with buttering up Grandma? Meanwhile the grandsons are asking Grandpa how the motor-home plumbing works.

Zaku's avatar

The boys’ art is about violence and/or poop jokes?

Dutchess_III's avatar

@zenvelo Actually, Zoey is the one asking Grammpa those mechanical questions. She also laughs hysterically over poop stories.

mazingerz88's avatar

Answer is the same as why sometimes girl friends hold hands while walking and boy friends never. I. Have. No. Idea.

Seriously though, it maybe because bracelets and other trinkets are decorative and boys prefer dismantling or breaking decorative stuff?

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

Beacause of what @gorillapaws wrote and possibly many other factors. It could be that girls value and need extended social networks more than boys do and this is a way of making those bonds.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Also, in school, girls overwhelmingly outnumber boys when it comes to writing me notes (“You’re the best sub EVER!”) and drawing me pictures and hearts. In fact, I don’t think I’ve even gotten a note from a boy.

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