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What's your opinion about a ménàge à trois?

Asked by luigirovatti (1095points) 2 months ago

I’m not talking specifically about sexual activity of three at the same time (threesome), and I’m DEFINITELY not talking about a love triangle. I’m talking about the SAME HOUSEHOLD. Anyway, feel free to share, though personally, if I were you, I’d not talk about whatever, let’s say, UNFAMILIAR experience of this sort you’ve had if you’re not 100% sure to.

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LadyMarissa's avatar

IF it works for those involved, I’m happy for them; however, I don’t think it would work for me!!!

elbanditoroso's avatar

I have known two (separate) families/groups that tried it. Both of them failed, each after 3–4 years.

As an outsider (a friend to two of the members of each group), it was a little unusual, but something you get used to. Friends are friends, a meal is a meal, and we had nice evenings and conversations.

So why did they fall apart? In both cases, it was a possessiveness / clinginess problem. Although it was a troika, theoretically, there were jealousies that couldn’t be worked out. And although they tried, in the end both groups fell apart.

For whatever it’s worth, both were 2-men,1-woman threesomes. And in each case, it was one of the men who left.

With one of the families that breakup also broke up the remaining couple (within 3–4 months). In the other, the couple stayed together.

flutherother's avatar

There’s probably a reason English has had to borrow the phrase from French.

Dutchess_III's avatar

I don’t understand the question. The very definition of a Ménage à trois is a domestic arrangement in which three people have romantic and/or sexual relations with one another….Are you talking about, like, a mother a father and a daughter or a son? What do you mean “Same household”?

I have no interest such an arrangement.

RedDeerGuy1's avatar

One should practice menage a une and du before moving on to the trois.

Kardamom's avatar

Just like with the sibling romantic Q, I think it’s gross, and somebody is likely to get their feelings hurt. This kind of relationship might work for some people, but it is not for me.

ucme's avatar

Two’s company…

josie's avatar

As you described it, sounds creepy

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luigirovatti's avatar

@Darth_Algar: Why don’t you see what’s written at the very top of the page of en.wiki, “ménàge à trois”?

Dutchess_III's avatar

I think what he means is that a ménage à trois IS about 3 some sex. The literal translation is “threesome.” But in your details you say ”I’m not talking specifically about sexual activity of three at the same time (threesome)....” And then you throw in ” I’m talking about the SAME HOUSEHOLD.” and just leave us shaking our head in confusion. Exactly what ARE you talking about?

luigirovatti's avatar

@Dutchess_III: I only mean that, if you don’t do a ménàge à trois in a, let’s say, secluded place, like a house, then it doesn’t make much sense.

Dutchess_III's avatar

If 3 people want to have sex on the beach, and they don’t care who sees them, why doesn’t that make sense? It’s still a threesome, no matter where it’s done.

cookieman's avatar

I think it’s ménàge à too much.

Darth_Algar's avatar

@luigirovatti

Well yeah, it doesn’t make much sense to perform any kind of sex act in a location where you could be arrested for it.

LadyMarissa's avatar

I see a new television show in he making. Instead of promoting Sister Wives, we’ll have an offering of Brother Husbands or Polyamorous House.

As @elbanditoroso pointed out, most of these relationships don’t last. My guess is that they’re exciting at first; but in time, people pair up naturally & somebody gets left out until they extricate themselves from the relationship. Even the Sister Wives group imploded to a degree!!!

Demosthenes's avatar

I don’t think I have enough penis for that.

But seriously it sounds like too much work. One partner is enough.

Dutchess_III's avatar

As a woman, I can’t see anyone of the other two settling down long enough to give me the attention a woman requires.

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