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We never really fathom the value of a friendship, family member, or relationship, until it is taken away from us -- such as death, moving away, change of employment, etc. Do you agree, and if so, what should we do now because of it?

Asked by Yellowdog (8016points) 1 month ago

Parting is such sweet sorrow. Or so Shakespeare said.

But when friends or lovers part, or a death occurs, or some other separation, we all of the sudden are hit with the reality of how much that person meant. Whether we had a full and fulfilling relationship with that person and went through a lot together—or whether we have a thousand regrets of all we never did, and had so much time and opportunity. Parting is such sweet sorrow.

Do you agree? And what can we do now while we still DO have those special people in our lives?

This question may sound sappy to many, and no one wants to give sappy answers. But the feelings of loss and regret and grief can be devastating and life-changing when friendships and relationships are torn asunder, and there is no going back.

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SQUEEKY2's avatar

If it’s a death,I don’t think there is much one can do, I resent when a loved one is taken by death and people say you will get over them,I don’t ever want to get over them I want to learn to live without them and remember them with a warm smile instead of a tear.

If it isn’t a death do your best to stay in touch, Emails, Skype, FaceTime and so on, unless they don’t want to stay in touch then again not much one can do.

Now what can we do while those people are in our lives,let them know how much they mean to you as a friend and enjoy your time with them to the fullest.

kritiper's avatar

Remember.

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ragingloli's avatar

You could build a shrine, or prop up a a custom designed RealDoll in the living room.

zenvelo's avatar

As we experience such partings, one learns to make use of the time we have. I am of an age where partings are about to accelerate. A friend I knew for fifty years, since seventh grade, passed last year from cancer, another close friend took his life just months before that.

What I have learned is to cherish the time we have right now, and to not wait to reconnect. Keep friendships and relations as alive as possible, it will make the memories later to be happier ones.

When my father was fading and had not long left, a therapist asked me, “do you have any unfinished business with your father?” I could honestly answer no, we had both made an effort in the twenty years before that to accept and love each other to our best ability.

Nurture relationships right now, and you won’t have regrets when they part.

mazingerz88's avatar

What I personally do is try having close enough relationships daily so there’s almost nothing to regret about that relationship if and when the unexpected happens.

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