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How can i convince my parents that i can move out?

Asked by Mtl_zack (6756points) August 26th, 2008

im 18, by the way, and money is not an issue.

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buster's avatar

Put your money where your mouth is. Stick your shit in some boxes and leave.

jrpowell's avatar

Move out.. Your 18, you don’t need their blessing.

tinyfaery's avatar

Convince them by doing.

augustlan's avatar

You are a legal adult…as such free to do it if you want. That’s not to say it’s the right thing for you to do, or that it won’t hurt your relationship with them (I can’t say, not knowing your circumstances).

augustlan's avatar

It just dawned on me that you’re in Canada, and I have no idea if you are a legal adult there…are you?

windex's avatar

Tell them:
you are gay, and have fallen in love with Fernando!
or
you need your space
you are joining a cult
you need to concentrate on school/work
you are joining the army
you want to discover yourself
you want to train for the next Olympics
you have become a drug dealer
you have fallen in love with someone in Fiji
you are going to prison
it’s not you, it’s me
you have started a cult
this is how it Must Be
you want to travel the world
you want to be naked all the time
THIS is the only way
you are moving to another state to become a sous chef
Lucas hired you for his next project that will be shot entirely on the moon
you have grown up and want to start your own life (chapta yo)

pick1, but why would they NOT want you to move out buddy? (does not compute)
Oh Btw, since you are 18, the BEST WAY is just to GO TO COLLEGE (automatic moving out+education+Bright Future)

TheHaight's avatar

I’d just sit them down and let them know that you feel like you are ready to move out and be independent. If money is not an issue, reassure them you won’t be struggling, and to not worry. I agree with Windex’s last choice, it’s such a great experience and smart to move out for a good reason such as school…especially if it’s out of your city.

JackAdams's avatar

Just say, “Hey, it’s MY LIFE, and I can throw it away, if I choose. Bye!”

August 27, 2008, 1:39 AM EDT

delirium's avatar

Give them a forwarding address and go do whatever you think you need to do. Be ready, however, to come back with your tail between your legs…

shadling21's avatar

Give them a nice little speech about how it’s time for you to stand on your own two legs, and that requires your moving out. Good luck…

winblowzxp's avatar

I second the idea to go to college…not only will you be able to move out, but your parents will still be paying for a lot of your stuff.

judis's avatar

You say money is not an issue, is that because THEY have plenty or YOU have plenty. If it’s their money then it IS an issue.

Mtl_zack's avatar

@agustian: i am legal in my province
@judis: i have a big scholarship fund, and many investments worth a lot that are in my name
@all: im planning on going to college in my own city, partially because it costs a lot less for residents of the province and because my dad has tenyer (spelling?) at one of the major universities.
the thing with my parents is that they have been part of almost every major decision in my life, and i feel that i need independence, but i don’t think that they would understand, because they were also overnurtured as young adults. they don’t understand that times are changing and that young adults now are different than young adults back then.

on a side note, my sister is turning 21 soon and is still at home.

BarbieM's avatar

If you can really pay your own way and be responsible, just go for it. If you are successful, your parents will see that. Just be sure you know exactly what you’re doing and you should be fine.

Poser's avatar

You say you don’t think that they’d understand. How do you know? It sounds like you haven’t really spoken to them about it. Perhaps you are the one who doesn’t understand their point of view. Understanding and communication must be a two way street. If you want to be understood, seek first to understand (thanks Stephen Covey!).

On a side note, depending on what type of investments you have, I’d hold off trying to live off of them. If you have thirty rental properties that are generating you a monthly cash flow, then, by all means, use it. If, however, you were given a bunch of paper assets that you’d have to cash in, I’d let those sit, or in some way turn them into an income stream. Investments shouldn’t disappear for food and rent.

judis's avatar

My wise and wealthy father in law had great advice. First task is to create hte goose that lays your eggs, second is to keep from killing it.

judis's avatar

Does your family have a cultural heritage that they are trying to preserve?

jholler's avatar

man up. If you want to leave, you don’t need their OR our permission or guidance.

jballou's avatar

Posting a question on the internet asking how to convince your parents to let you move out seems to me to be a pretty clear indication that you’re not at all ready to move out on your own.

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