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Hawaii_Jake's avatar

Should I call a plumber?

Asked by Hawaii_Jake (31574points) 1 month ago

I’m looking for a husband. Would a plumber answer my call?

I’ve been spending a lot of time with a man for 3 months, and I’m going to ask him this weekend what all this means. I fully expect to hear that we’re good friends. That makes me giddy knowing it frees me to explore the beaches and bushes for eligible bachelors.

Where do you recommend that I look? What rocks should I turn over in an effort to locate a man?

While you’re at it, what traits should I be looking for in a potential partner? Height? Weight? Religious affiliation? Hair color? Job prospects? Family trusts? Favorite vegetable? Favorite Shakespearean insult?

Come on, folks. Help a gay out.

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nerdgirl578's avatar

What traits should you be looking for in a partner? The ones that are attractive to you of course, no one else can help you with that. I hope it works out fot you.

KNOWITALL's avatar

What if your friend wants to take it to a different level? Do you know what you’ll say if he does?

I assume the regular traits in a husband:
Job
Generosity
Car
Money
Friends/ life of his own
Good in the sack
I go for dark hair and blue eyes, or redheads personally
Intelligence is a major turn on

Best of luck this weekend for a favorable outcome!

Dutchess_lll's avatar

Good sense of humor.

Dutchess_lll's avatar

Do plumbers like getting married better than others?

Hawaii_Jake's avatar

I’ll call one and let you know.

flutherother's avatar

Dare I say the Internet? It worked for me despite all the hazards and heartbreaks you might encounter. No harm in strolling along the beach in a free and nonchalant manner either. There is no saying what may drift in on the tidal currents. Anyway, good luck!

Hawaii_Jake's avatar

Perhaps a lonesome sailor will wash up at my feet?

ZEPHYRA's avatar

Don’t turn over any stones. Just sit back, relax and carry on smoothly until something good comes your way.

Dutchess_lll's avatar

Excuse to give him mouth to mouth…

kritiper's avatar

I talked to my dad once about finding a mate and he told me something I hadn’t considered.
The woman (or what-have-you) selects you. You do not select her.
All you can do is put yourself out there where possible mates might be so that fate may take it’s course, and hope for the best.
Good luck!

nerdgirl578's avatar

@kritiper I’m not sure about that though… Someone has to take the first step. If both are simply waiting to be selected nothing will happen.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

Kritiper is very correct at least for hetero guys. You don’t get to pick the girl, the girl picks you. I imagine this applies when you are gay too. Go put yourself out there and see who it attracts.

nerdgirl578's avatar

@ARE_you_kidding_me Are you serious? The girl always picks you? My point is if you “put yourself out there and see who it attracts” someone still has to make the first move.

Dutchess_lll's avatar

@nerdgirl578 absolutely in the hetero world the girls pick. Men are usually lined up to attract any available female. She just needs to pick one.
I am not sure how it would work for gay men tho. They still think like men.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

It’s always the girl who decides. That’s no guarantee that the man will like the girl though.

nerdgirl578's avatar

Lol, I’m not sure why you say that… Maybe this is an age thing or something, or maybe there’s something wrong with me but I can assure you I can’t simply pick any guy I want and have them want to be in a relationship with me. Both parties have to be into it obvioulsy.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

Numbers, guys will be ok with like 60 girls out of a hundred. Girls will pick like five. In my relationships I was always “chosen.”

Dutchess_lll's avatar

It’s not an age thing @nerdgirl578. It’s the way it is in most animal worlds.
Men are constantly finding ways to impress women, from monster trucks to football.

nerdgirl578's avatar

@Dutchess Like I said, someone still has to take the first step, how coud anyone be picked otherwise?

Dutchess_lll's avatar

Tell us about the last boyfriend you had. How did you meet?

nerdgirl578's avatar

Actually I was just going to. We met at work and became friendly, eventually it turned into something more than friendship. I didn’t pick him and he didn’t pick me, we picked each other as far as I know.

Dutchess_lll's avatar

That’s cool.

LuckyGuy's avatar

@Hawaii_Jake This Q sure made me smile! I don’t have a good answer for you other than to say thanks for the day brightener!

LadyMarissa's avatar

As for the traits…NONE that you listed. I don’t care if you’re straight or gay, I find the most important traits are kindness, compassion, good sense of humor, ability to love, honesty.

Hawaii_Jake's avatar

I didn’t list any traits. I have a list of questions, though.

Hawaii_Jake's avatar

Lucky, you win this question.

kritiper's avatar

@nerdgirl578 Yes, sometimes nothing will happen. But if a girl wants to meet a guy, she’ll find a way to let him know. Then maybe he’ll be bold enough to take the next step. That’s the way the ball bounces in life!
I think gay men would be different since they are basically on the same wavelength: They know what the other is most interested in. SO much easier for one guy to say to another, “Hi! My name is Bob. Can I buy you a drink?” Especially if it’s a known place for gay men to hang out.

Dutchess_lll's avatar

@kritiper women know what the men are most interested in too. The difference is the women aren’t as interested in the same thing.

LadyMarissa's avatar

While you’re at it, what traits should I be looking for in a potential partner? Height? Weight? Religious affiliation? Hair color? Job prospects? Family trusts? Favorite vegetable? Favorite Shakespearean insult?

Most of your Q’s are superficial stuff. When you meet your Mr Right, NONE of them will matter!!! You will KNOW that he’s the one!!!

Dutchess_lll's avatar

This isn’t his first trip around the block @LadyMarissa. He’s a grown man and he knows exactly what he’s looking for.

chyna's avatar

I don’t know Jake. That whole “plumber crack” is pretty true. I think if it’s an attractive crack, go for it!

jca2's avatar

@Hawaii_Jake: Would you like your friend to say he wants more or would you prefer to be looking elsewhere?

LadyMarissa's avatar

@Dutchess_lll I hope he finds it!!!

stanleybmanly's avatar

If you’re shopping, seek out a target rich environment. But how are we supposed to recommend traits YOU are supposed to find palatable? I have the same interest or taste in boyfriends as I would in tutus or lipstick.

kritiper's avatar

@Dutchess_lll You knew that I knew that.

Dutchess_lll's avatar

What is the #1 MAIN thing you’re looking for? Are you looking for a relationship?

Hawaii_Jake's avatar

@jca2 I’m completely open to either outcome. I don’t think I have a preference. I have a strong suspicion he’ll say we’re some variation of good friends after not hearing from him for a week. I’m fine with exploring new possibilities.

kritiper's avatar

@Dutchess_lll He said at the beginning that he was looking for a husband.

Hawaii_Jake's avatar

I want a husband. My preference is for a man who is emotionally intelligent or actively working on becoming that. Because of pervasive homophobia, gay men are all damaged psychologically to some extent. I’ll be happy with a man who, like me, is working to heal his damage. So far, that seems to be a tall order.

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