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Did having children make you more sensitive to the things?

Asked by Dutchess_III (40360points) 3 weeks ago

I came across this question from 2010 and thought I’d resurrect it.
Having kids meant I cried more easily over things.
Having kids in High School when the Columbine shooting took place shook me to the core in a way that it just wouldn’t have if I didn’t have kids.
I became more sensitive to violence on TV.
Because of my kids I found a love I couldn’t even dream of, and discovered a deep, abiding pain that is hard to bear.
My every perception changed, permanently. I don’t know if it was for the good or the bad, but it happened.

Did having kids change you?

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kritiper's avatar

Having kids would change anybody. It’s all part of the gig.
My mother and father changed but by the time the change was apparent for the benefit of their 8 children, the kids were grown and gone,

Dutchess_III's avatar

Could you be more specific @kritiper? If you’d like.

SQUEEKY2's avatar

Having kids is a life altering change, and of course it would make you more sensitive to a great many things.

Still super glad we chose to skip the parenting part of life.

kritiper's avatar

As children are raised, the parents learn by trial and error what works and what doesn’t. By the time they get it down, it’s too late. Anyone who has had kids, generally speaking, knows this.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

Not having any is my only regret

raum's avatar

Thanks a lot, Dutch.
Now I’m crying.

JLeslie's avatar

I don’t have any children, but I don’t see why anyone would believe it’s not life altering, and that having children makes people more sensitive and more aware of what is out in the world.

I think my husband, who likes to watch violent movies, would probably think about it differently if we had kids.

I think about how much I love my husband and my sister and want them to be happy and safe, and I can only imagine what the love and worry would be like for my children.

I believe what everyone has always told me. They would give up theirs life for their children. I have no doubt I would feel the same.

I do think with age a lot of people become less arrogant and more sensitive. Life knocks them down a few times and they develop more empathy. So, I think having kids is part of becoming a more emotional and sensitive person, but also it has to do with the time in our life that we have children. A 25 year old in general is less selfish than a 16 year old. A 35 year old is more aware of how everyone and everything effects everyone and everything than a 25 year old.

Although, lately, there seems to be a real lack of empathy in the country.

jca2's avatar

Definitely also having a child makes you consider your mortality.

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