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What do you think of my situation with my Aunt?

Asked by DispossessedX10 (57points) 2 weeks ago

A few months ago, my Aunt and her family decided to stay at our house after being kicked out despite the fact that we were warned by the Company, who own the house, that they are not allowed due to overcrowding and that we would have to pay a fine…Or we would be the ones getting thrown out. But this fact falls on deaf ears with my Aunt making excuse after excuse such as ‘They won’t find out’.

Instead of finding a place to live, My Aunt spends her cash on booze and drugs at the local watering can, complains about our food, the state of our house etc and refuses to contribute. To top it all they are all living rent free and often treat the house like a sewer, leaving plates of food for the flies to devour and for us to clean up.

All this has caused us a huge amount of stress but My Uncle refuses to kick them out because Aunt Sloth plays on his soft-hearted personality. She has threatened to harm herself for the smallest of reasons such as not finding certain items like a T-shirt or a phone; as well as blaming one of us for her life going wrong.

It doesn’t feel like our home anymore and I am very close to contacting the Company.

FYI, ‘Aunt’ and ‘Uncle’ are placeholders.

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Tropical_Willie's avatar

Get a lawyer and get her out. See if the lawyer thinks you can keep her possessions as payment (since it is on your property).

ZEPHYRA's avatar

So they aren’t relatives? Try the friendly and civilized way once again and then turn to the law. Get a lawyer to speak to them and hopefully they will get the message. Don’t give in to threats and tears and other efforts to latch on.

Dutchess_III's avatar

What @Tropical_Willie said, and do it NOW. After they’ve been there 3 months it can be very, very difficult to remove them.

janbb's avatar

It doesn’t sound like the OP owns the house butthat his “uncle” does. Maybe the OP has to find new housing.

KNOWITALL's avatar

So the Company is the only ones who will kick them out, then snitch. Just understand you may be booted, too.

raum's avatar

Butt Hat > But That

I would look into specific laws for your state. If your Aunt has permission to reside on the property and she’s been there over a certain amount of time, she may have established some tenant rights. :/

Dutchess_III's avatar

I think it’s 3 months @raum.

DispossessedX10's avatar

It is the Company that owns the house, but he is the holder, with all of us paying our share such as food, rent etc. Yeah, I am sure stuck between a Volcano and a river of acid.

What do you guys think of my Aunt’s behavior? She seems rather ungrateful.

KNOWITALL's avatar

@DispossessedX10 Sounds like a typical drunk to me. Can’t stand them.

DispossessedX10's avatar

One of the reasons for my Aunty not being allowed is because of overcrowding, and she does not help with the food, rent etc.

raum's avatar

@Dutchess_III In California, you only need to stay for more than two weeks (within a six month period) to establish tenant rights. It’s crazy.

Not sure which state OP is in though.

DispossessedX10's avatar

Where I live, statutory overcrowding is a No!

Dutchess_III's avatar

Why don’t you move?

jca2's avatar

@DispossessedX10: The only thing it sounds like you have control over is yourself, in this situation. If I were you, I’d prepare to move out. If that is not possible, then you have to deal with whatever the apartment owner decides he wants to accept. If you are living there on the good graces of your uncle, then you have little choice, if you can’t move out.

stanleybmanly's avatar

There is no need to ask what we think of your aunt’s behavior. It is of course atrocious. The remedy for yourself, however requires more detailed description of your circumstances. It is difficult to understand your options as well as your responsibilities from the descriptions given. Aunt, uncle, intermingling families. My assumption from the description is that there are 3 families involved in this nightmare, your uncle’s, his sister’s and yours. How many people total are embroiled in this quagmire, and how many are functioning adults? Are you of an age or in a position to strike out on your own? Are your aunt’s children as useless and inconsiderate as herself? Where on the planet are you?

DispossessedX10's avatar

If I could, I would! But because of personal problems, I can’t.

Why should we be the ones forced to leave thanks to a person who would mostly likely lose the house (if we did give the house up to them) due to not cleaning up. My Uncle often complains but in my class, he created the mess by letting them stay.

jca2's avatar

If you can’t move out, you are at the mercy of your Uncle and whatever he allows.

DispossessedX10's avatar

Except he is not the owner and there is only so much one of us can take before one of us report them to the Company.

jca2's avatar

OK it sounds like there’s no easy answer. I guess fate will take over.

DispossessedX10's avatar

Yeah! Well I have been close to cracking up thanks to those waste of spaces.

jca2's avatar

If you could move out, or you were the owner (with your name on the lease), you’d have more control over the situation. Since you can’t move out and it’s not your apartment, you are kind of at the mercy of the others.

DispossessedX10's avatar

Not if one of us snaps and contacts the Company due overcrowding and other stuff; in the past, they even told us that they can throw my aunt out if found living within our house with the full backing from the local authorities.

She pays no rent, takes our food without giving anything in return and has in the past brought home randoms.

jca2's avatar

Good luck, @DispossessedX10. let us know how it goes.

janbb's avatar

So why not contact the Company- whatever that is? That would seem to be the solution.

Sagacious's avatar

I didn’t have to even read your whole story to know that that aunt wouldn’t be in my house. I share and help and try to support people, but when it comes to my home I feel no obligation to allow anyone entrance or comfort within.

Dutchess_III's avatar

You should have read the whole post. It isn’t her house. It’s her uncle’s house.

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