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lucillelucillelucille's avatar

Are you comfortable with your own imperfections?

Asked by lucillelucillelucille (31599points) 3 weeks ago

Do you know what they are?

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ucme's avatar

Yes I am & I embrace them, they make me unique.

josie's avatar

Assuming they are imperfections beyond one’s ability to control…
Then there aren’t that many choices but to accept it.

On the other hand, if you can do something about it then you should.

LadyMarissa's avatar

I claim anything that makes me my own person!!! I see it as part of what makes me special to the world!!!

elbanditoroso's avatar

Sure, what other option is there, except to be comfortable with them?

Either you make peace with them or you turn into a neurotic idiot.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@elbanditoroso -The other option is to improve yourself.

RedDeerGuy1's avatar

No. I am very critical. I have anxiety/panic attacks when I make a mistake.

RedDeerGuy1's avatar

@elbanditoroso Can I use that word? Neurotic idiot. Just explained my life after I stated caring about school and society. After Junior High where I had super-confidence and was taller than the bullies.

janbb's avatar

Imperfectly

Mimishu1995's avatar

It was a long journey to get to acceptance. Like @RedDeerGuy1, I have anxiety when I make a mistake. It has gotten better.

I think the people you surround yourself with have a large influence on how accepting you are. Better find yourself better friends before you call yourself useless.

Patty_Melt's avatar

No. I am not comfortable with my imperfections. I am proud of who I am, but my imperfections make me angry. Resources wasted, such as time, energy, cash, personal possessbions; the losses infuriate me. I am critical of my imperfections. I consider them not a part of me, but something like a virus, which needs to be cured.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@Patty_Melt -I hear you. There is always something to work on. :)
@Mimishu1995- I believe self worth comes from the inside :)

JLeslie's avatar

Physical imperfections? I’m not ok with the ones that I really liked about myself and a medical professional fucked up and took away from. Also, when my thyroid is whackadoo and my hair gets really thin. It does bother me.

Other imperfections I don’t mind, they make me, me.

Mimishu1995's avatar

@lucille it’s true that self-worth comes from the inside, but the environment around you does have a lot of influence on how you feel about yourself. Would you be happy if you were surrounded by people who always put you down? The brain is an expert at finding evidence and if you aren’t able to find examples of how you are worthy instead of tons of evidence of how useless you are, then no amount of “I’m awesome” self-assurance would help unless you are a narcissist.

Having supportive people is like having a teacher who teaches you what self-love looks like. You can’t do anything if you don’t learn how to do it in the first place.

canidmajor's avatar

Define imperfections.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@Mimishu1995- Everyone is not the same.Some people thrive in spite of being in an adverse situation, while others crumble.
I just read a story of a baby that was abandoned at birth near a dumpster. He is now a CEO of a 62 million dollar company.
@canidmajor -Anything the individual considers not up to par-shortcomings.

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tinyfaery's avatar

Mostly. I wish I could just stop being so damn clumsy. I’ve always been this way and I have no idea how to change it. Also, sometimes my lack of brain to mouth filter is annoying, for me and others. That is another thing that I just can’t seem to change.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@tinyfaery -As someone whose nickname was “Grace” as a child, I had to learn to be more mindful so as to prevent accidents.
I am not always successful and do find it amusing that I make pottery for a living. :)

canidmajor's avatar

Ah. I have learned that whoever I am at any given moment is who I am, the entire person of me. As arrogant as it may sound, the perfect person for me to be, at this place in time, is just who I am. This knowledge has been very hard won, so I cherish it. If my goals include becoming a slightly different version of myself tomorrow, that is included in today’s perfect me. :-)

Mimishu1995's avatar

@lucille There is just too much information missing in your story. Where and who the boy was adopted after being dumped, how much talent the boy had, what opportunities the boy happened to come across… The boy could very much have ended up being in other professions, or even just led an ordinary life if it wasn’t for those factors I’m not saying there is something wrong with the boy though, he could lead an ordinary life and have awesome personality. Being a CEO isn’t necessary an indication that the boy made it while others didn’t.

When I was a child I used to be praised for my confidence and boldness. But things suddenly came to a decline when I entered high school. Someone told me to “believe in myself before others does”. I tried and it didn’t work and I beat myself up for that. Turned out the reason was that I was suffering from extreme bullying and had no one close to a friend to understand what I was going through. And the one who told me to believe in myself, she later turned out to be a manipulator who wanted me to be strong so that she could use me. When I got out of high school and finally got myself some real friends, I was back to my confident self.

I even know a jelly who went through the exact same thing. She was all happy and optimistic. Then she had to move in with her granddaughter to take care of her, and the kid’s negative personality drained her. Every time I met her she never had energy for a normal conversation and she sometimes complained, something she had never done much before. She decided to move out and she is now again the cheerful friend I know.

So yeah, everyone is not the same. I’m not trying to shoot you down, but even when someone “crumbles” by your definition, be kind to them. They may just haven’t found the true place where they can shine yet.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@Mimishu1995 -The whole point being is he had a rough start and became sucessful.It’s a story of hope,overcoming things…
and really being abandoned by your own mom next to a dumpster is not a good start There are those who would take that knowledge of their history and crumble. -use any word you wish to describe someone who breaks.
Here is a link to the story: https://www.wnd.com/2019/11/baby-abandoned-near-dumpster-birth-now-ceo-company-valued-62-million/
I am not sure what your extreme bullying entailed but mine was having physical altercations at least a few times per week coupled with a bit of psychological mind fucks thrown in for good measure.
In my experience, it never did me any good to feel sorry for myself or blame others for “whatever” & I believe these experiences have me made a lot stronger.
All that being said, there are so many others who have had it waaaaaaaay worse than I ever had so I really can’t complain and am a pretty happy person.
As for me being unkind to people? I do not go out of my way to be mean to others.

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