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How do you get with a guy way older than you?

Asked by photonboton (104points) 1 month ago

He is 61 and I am 29. he is married I think.

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RedDeerGuy1's avatar

Have a three way with his wife.

elbanditoroso's avatar

You’re asking for trouble. Age will be a problem, but his marital status will be a killer. He isn’t going to leave is wife, that he has had for 35 years, for someone younger than his daughter.

But it’s your life….

anniereborn's avatar

At your age it shouldn’t be hard at all Older guys love young women. However, it’s highly unlikely he will leave his wife. So, just count on it being an affair.

photonboton's avatar

I’ll go with the threeway

NoMoreY_Aagain's avatar

Stick with men your own age. This guy has one foot in the grave and the other on a banana peel.

YARNLADY's avatar

To get with a guy, you first make yourself as desirable as possible

Patty_Melt's avatar

Is this a returning visitor?

kritiper's avatar

In a ideal world, a man should be with a woman who is ½ his age plus 7 years. But, besides being too old for you, he’s married so give it up.

Demosthenes's avatar

I don’t care about the age difference (I’m mostly into guys my age, but sometimes older guys can be hot and fun to talk to), but the fact that he’s married makes this sound like a bad idea.

anniereborn's avatar

@kritiper OMG, I should be with an 86 year old??? I don’t think so !

Pinguidchance's avatar

Palliative care nurse.

KNOWITALL's avatar

For what? A relationship, marriage, sugar baby?

gorillapaws's avatar

Viagra and sponge baths…

cookieman's avatar

What is your end goal here?

LadyMarissa's avatar

It’s simple…just flirt with him & he will eventually respond favorably…maybe. Just know that you will ALWAYS be a piece of side tail as he’ll NEVER leave his wife!!! I always preferred older men until I became an older woman…now it’s NOT so exciting!!! Of course, you need to understand that he has been married a good portion of his life. He might love his wife enough to NOT have the desire to cheat!!!

MrGrimm888's avatar

Shouldn’t be difficult.

kritiper's avatar

@anniereborn It’s obviously not about you…

Darth_Algar's avatar

@photonboton

It’s simple – approach him and tell him you’ll slurp his coke for $1000.

@kritiper

Who the hell came up with that cockamamie idea?

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

It shouldn’t be hard.

KNOWITALL's avatar

@Darth_Algar Crude but funny.

Patty_Melt's avatar

@lucille you’re so funny!

si3tech's avatar

You Don’t!

kritiper's avatar

@Darth_Algar Unknown. But I kinda like the idea…

photonboton's avatar

I’m new here. I obviously want to date him and I found out today he is single

NoMoreY_Aagain's avatar

What ever floats your stick.

anniereborn's avatar

61 and single? You are 29? Just give him a smile and you are in.

LadyMarissa's avatar

Being 61 & still single is probably worse than being married!!! Either he never wanted to be married or he had a terrible wife & got divorced…still not interested in trying again. I still say flirt with him & see how he reacts. IF he’s interested, you’ll get your wish. IF he doesn’t respond, move on to someone smarter!!!

raum's avatar

He was married last time you checked and now he’s suddenly single? Do you mean he took off his wedding ring and told you he was single?

@lucillelucillelucille Ha!

MrGrimm888's avatar

I feel, like I have to say something here. It’s just a splinter, in my mind…

Why on Earth, would a woman want to be with a man 30 years, her senior?

I understand most men. And they would typically, at least, be interested in a sexual encounter with such a younger woman.

But. As usual, the female mind escapes me…

What does the OP, stand to get out of such an arrangement?
I’ll probably catch hell, for this. But, is he rich? What is the driving force behind this desire?

photonboton's avatar

@raum No, I just assumed a man who was that age would have been married. I assumed wrong.

photonboton's avatar

@MrGrimm888 I have a fetish for older men.

KNOWITALL's avatar

@MrGrimm Daddy issues is the general term. Usually older men represent security and approval. Not necessarily a bad thing if you’re self-aware.

LadyMarissa's avatar

@MrGrimm888 I found guys my age boring & older men had more knowledge about life from which I coud learn. PLUS…they brought less drama into my life. NEVER felt that I had Daddy issues, but was self aware enough to know what I preferred!!! When I was 35, I was dating a man who was 77 & I hard a difficult time keeping up with him & he was smart enough to treat me wIth RESPECT!!! He was smart, funny, athletic & stayed on the go. I finally broke up with him because he was more active than I wanted to be. Somewhere around 50, I realized that older men were becoming a thing of the past. Funny thing was that while I was dating older men, my parents kept reminding me that they would die a long time before I did. I ended up marrying a man my age which made my parents very happy & then he died 3 years later. The 77 year old out lived him by 10 years & was out hiking when he died.

Pinguidchance's avatar

My fetish is fetishists.

On a softer note, you’ve made a lot of old men happy to ponder your perilous predicament.

photonboton's avatar

I do not have daddy issues. I do not like the implications that I do. I may call him “daddy” in bed but that is only a kink.

NoMoreY_Aagain's avatar

That’s more than I needed to know. (Eyeroll)

NoMoreY_Aagain's avatar

Don’t drag me into this, I ain’t a perv. You’re a baby compared to me. I’m into women in my own age group

MrGrimm888's avatar

Well. It’s pretty obvious, by observation, and self awareness, that men prefer younger women, and women prefer older men. For whatever reason, this rings true throughout humanity.

It’s interesting that men, who like younger women, are persecuted, but women who like older men, aren’t…

I’m 39 years old. I pursue women in their mid/late 20’s.

I guess, I don’t feel as old as I am. I would like to settle down, with women of this age. But, they don’t usually want to do the same. I respect that. But, it’s frustrating….

Darth_Algar's avatar

There’s a fair bit of difference between dating someone within a decade or so of you and dating someone young enough to be your granddaughter.

KNOWITALL's avatar

@photo No ones accusing you of having daddy issues. Its a fairly common psychological issue found in age disparate couples.

If you grew up with your dad in the home, and that relationship was good, and he’s still alive, its probably not daddy issues.

MrGrimm888's avatar

Yeah. I think it’s just human nature, to try to make sense of EVERYTHING. So. When a younger woman, wants to be with a guy, who is old enough to be her father, a potentially logical conclusion is that she has father issues.

A man isn’t held to that logic. Men want to be with younger women. That doesn’t mean that they have “daughter” issues….

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@MrGrimm888 -I have a friend who has always dated older men.
When her daughter got a job at a nursing home, she wouldn’t allow her mother to visit her at work.

MrGrimm888's avatar

Well. That seems to be the norm. Again, by observation, the male is typically odlder, than the female, in a relationship. On average.
And these, are usually consenting relationships. Not, like child bride situations, in other cultures.
So. My conclusion, is that women prefer older men, and men prefer younger females…

Is there a flaw, in that interpretation?

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@MrGrimm888 -Based on what I’ve seen, it often seems to be that way but there are always exceptions.
My husband is only one year older than I.
When I was dating, I did not like a big age difference either way as I did not want to ride on the handlebars of his bicycle on our way to get icecream,nor did I want to take a Model T as they’re just not reliable.:)
Really though, what would I have in common with a much older man?
When I did date an older guy, he wrote my initial in a vat of vegetable dip and I couldn’t get the hell out of there soon enough. XD

MrGrimm888's avatar

As usual, I mean no disrespect, with my comments. I just go by observation.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@MrGrimm888 – I didn’t think you did. Are you even talking to me?? Lol

MrGrimm888's avatar

LLL. One of my favorite jellyfish.

I wasn’t talking directly to you. My comments, are more directed to the pond.

As usual, I’m delighted by any of your responses though.

Peace n love.

KNOWITALL's avatar

@MrGrimm Based on sexual peak, I always thought cougars were the smart ones haha!

MrGrimm888's avatar

^Damn, your logic, but it makes sense.
I once hooked up with a 28 year old woman, when I 19. On a cruise ship…. She got me. Or whatever….

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