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lucillelucillelucille's avatar

Who is one person you would never ever want to see again?

Asked by lucillelucillelucille (32270points) 4 days ago

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mazingerz88's avatar

The woman who dumped me in 1994. And the guy she married. Still bitter. What can I say? Lol

ragingloli's avatar

That annoying coworker who gets on my tits.

ucme's avatar

Hmmm, I feel an answer coming…
Santa Claus.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@ucme- Bad gifts this year?

Dutchess_lll's avatar

That scary stalker guy who became obsessed with me in college.

ucme's avatar

@lucillelucillelucille No, plenty lovely & thoughtful ones, but I didn’t get any off him & he pwomised!

Kardamom's avatar

A former boss at a place where I worked 30 years ago. He was involved in illegal activities, and endangered a number of co-workers, and friends. When several of them acted as whistleblowers against this despicable man, they were promptly fired, and had to spend a lot of their own money to defend themselves in a lawsuit against this jerk. I was subpoenad to act as a witness against the asshole. It caused a lot of emotional, and financial grief for me and my co-workers. If I saw this man in the street, I would probably not apply my brakes.

filmfann's avatar

My ex-boss, who raped a coworker and bragged about it. He did a lot of bad things, and I have detailed them here.
I have forgiven him, and I pray for his soul, but I have no interest in seeing him again.

RedDeerGuy1's avatar

My grade school bullies.

Kardamom's avatar

^^ I would not forgive that guy @filmfann. People seem to think that forgiveness is freeing for the forgiver. I don’t agree with that. Some people simply don’t deserve forgiveness. The people who deserve forgiveness get it. The people who don’t, don’t.

Dutchess_lll's avatar

What was the outcome @Kardamom?

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KNOWITALL's avatar

@kardamom Forgiveness is for ourselves not the other person. I almost mentioned my rapist as my answer but realized it simply wasnt true anymore.

Patty_Melt's avatar

I’m pretty sure my mom is dead now, but anyway, her.

Coolhandluke's avatar

Myself from years ago. I wasn’t a good person.

seawulf575's avatar

My ex. I don’t need that psychosis in my life.

Kardamom's avatar

@KNOWITALL If forgiveness is for us, rather than the person who did the bad deed, then there is no reason to give it. I won’t help me, and if the person doesn’t deserve it, then they won’t get it. In my opinion, giving forgiveness to someone who doesn’t deserve it, would just wound me twice, and the jerk who did the dirty deed, and feels no remorse, doesn’t give a shit. I know the “Christian” thing to do is to forgive. I am not a Christian, and I don’t buy that. It completely depends upon what the person did, and why they did it, and whether they are truly sorry, and if they have made real actions to repair the situation, otherwise no.

Dutchess_lll's avatar

It only counts if the person that needs to be forgiven cares if they are forgiven.

KNOWITALL's avatar

@kardamom For me it takes too much energy to foster negative emotion long term. I’ve been thru a lot, why should I carry the burden of hate for several people? Nah, they dont get the power over my emotions.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@KNOWITALL – I couldn’t agree with you more.

KNOWITALL's avatar

@lucillelucillelucille Mom told me that a long time ago and for me it’s absolutely true.

I wrote my bio dad a letter at 37 saying I forgave him, met him this year for about the 3rd time in my life. Gave the man a hug, a smile and he did the same. It was very healing for us both.

If I had harbored hate, and not chosen to forgive him so long ago, I don’t think we’d have gotten the benefits of that healing. Things happen, that doesn’t mean there’s not regret for poor choices, or decisions you can’t take back. But for me, hugging my bio dad with no malice in my heart was one of the best experiences of my life.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@KNOWITALL -I bet it was and I am glad for you. :)
When I think of people I had to forgive in order to “get on with it” and be happy, one stands out.
They are not remorseful and never will be. That is their nature and it won’t ever change.
I don’t wish this person any harm or any good for that matter, they simply don’t affect my life in any way.
That however, does not change the fact that they are a colossal asshole. Lol

ucme's avatar

I apologise out of hand for laughing like a drain at “colossal asshole”
Imagine someone with a lisp saying it lol

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@ucme -Like Cindy Brady?? lol!

ucme's avatar

@lucillelucillelucille Wow yeah lol
To be fair, she could be referring to any of the brothers in the show.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@ucme -I liked Peter. I still like Peter.
don’t say it….

Kardamom's avatar

@KNOWITALL For me, giving forgiveness where it is not deserved, would be the burden I would carry, in a similar way to giving money to someone, in the hopes that they would use it for good, only to find that they snorted it up their nose or went to the casino. It’s no skin off me, in fact it serves as a warning and a reminder, not to forgive people who don’t deserve forgiveness. I am not a Christian, nor am I religious, so I just don’t buy into that. I do what seems right and practical to me, not what looks warm and fuzzy on paper.

Dutchess_lll's avatar

If my sister said “Let bygones be bygones” I would jump on it. If things go back to the natural, relaxed things were in the 80s.

KNOWITALL's avatar

@Kardamom Sure, we all have different coping mechanisms and things.
For me, it’s not about religious beliefs at all, it’s my personal happiness and mental health.

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