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I want my ex to want me back, but he says he's "moved on" what should i do?

Asked by cody1717 (7points) September 1st, 2008
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shrubbery's avatar

You should move on too. Don’t call or text your ex for a while, ask your friends to take you out and get him off your mind. Find someone new.

Allie's avatar

Let it go. Do things you did before. Hang out with your friends like shrubbery said.

stratman37's avatar

If you love something, set it free. If it doesn’t come back, hunt it down and kill it!

Randy's avatar

Move on. If he doesn’t want you back then there is someone else out there that’s better for you.

joeysefika's avatar

There’s plenty more fish in the sea, many more stones on the road, many more grains of sand on the beach…. you get my drift….

JackAdams's avatar

First, Welcome! I see that you just joined, today, according to your profile.

I can’t improve on any of the advice that you’ve already been offered, but I will say that it’s indeed possible to get back together.

20 years ago, a girlfriend of mine and I had a terrible fight and split up. Ten years later, we reunited, and have been together (10 years, now), ever since.

So, it can be done, but you need to just make yourself “available” for him, which means that you let your mutual friends know that your telephone number is the same, if he wishes to call.

And while you are waiting for a call that might never come, you should take the time to mentally review what led to him becoming an “ex,” in the first place.

Was it something you said or did that hurt him? Was it something you should have done, or should have said? What (and who) caused the break-up?

But again, the other advice you have been given, is just as good or better, than mine.

September 1, 2008, 9:02 AM EDT

SeekerSeekiing's avatar

Do you chose to continue to hurt yourself?

You can’t _make_somebody want you.

He said he’s moved on, and you must take him at his word.

The best thing you can do now, is fulfill your won life. Make yourself happy. I am in no way saying ‘letting go’ is easy…yet, it can be done. And overall it will be the best thing to do. Let go of him today, and let tomorrow take care of itself.

marinelife's avatar

As SeekerSeeking says, there is no way to make your ex want you. As for what you can do? Take your ex at his word.

Will you feel pain? Yes. The best thing you can do is put yourself first. Spend some time feeling the pain of the break-up and acknowledging it. Your question indicates that you have not yet accepted that it is real.

Talk it through with a few friends, but then put a cap on that. Wallowing in your sorrow will not help.

Be kind to yourself, give yourself time, know that it won’t feel great right away. Sometimes focusing on others helps. Perhaps dive into some volunteer work or a cause? It will take you out of yourself.

When you feel ready, open yourself to meeting new people. He has moved on, and you need to do the same.

allengreen's avatar

Start going out with one of his friends—that will get his panties in a bunch.

Trance24's avatar

You should move on too. He obviously doesn’t want to be with you and you need to come to terms with that. I am not saying this in a negative kind of way but just trying to help. The sooner you move on the sooner you can start over in a new and possibly better relationship.

AngryNugget's avatar

Become an internet cam-whore.

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