In your life, how do you reconcile these paradoxical values: standing out versus fitting in?

Do you find these values in conflict? What do they mean in practice in your life? Do you try to stand out or fit in—or both?

Does “everybody’s special” sound sensible to you, or is it just an empty notion that sells greeting cards?

This question isn’t asking for advice or help, thanks. It’s asking how you work out this seeming contradiction in your own life.