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Do you believe in love at first sight?

Asked by CelestialIncognito (336points) 1 month ago

If love equals trust and the one in sight can not be trusted, then what?

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Jeruba's avatar

I believe in chemistry at first sight, but love needs a little more than that to go on.

Love does not equal trust. Love does not guarantee anything at all.

Yellowdog's avatar

It takes a long time to really get to know someone long enough for real commitment.

But yes, twice it has happened to me that I knew that someone was the one I had always wanted the first time I saw her, and the relationship lasted until circumstances drove us apart. My first love moved away in my mid teens, and I tried to carry on the relationship for years long distance. The girl I have now, I knew years ago that she was the one I always wanted. Our paths crossed several times over twenty years before we ended up together, and have been together for five years.

ragingloli's avatar

Love, no.
Lust, yes.
Because that is what it always is.

Yellowdog's avatar

No, lust implies a sexual desire.

canidmajor's avatar

With dogs, sure.

ucme's avatar

Sentimental poppycock.

emorris25's avatar

I believe that you can be attracted or interested in someone at first sight but I don’t think you truly can love someone until you get to know them.

Darth_Algar's avatar

I believe in lust at first sight.

kritiper's avatar

Yes, in a sense. @Darth_Algar summed it up very well.

Zaku's avatar

If love equals trust and the one in sight can not be trusted, then what?
* love does not “equal” trust
* life and love are not “if then” formulas

You have a moment to choose what to do or not to do.

Would you rather regret acting on a feeling of love, or regret having not acted on it, and never knowing what might have happened if you had?

“Do you believe in love at first sight?”
It really depends on what you mean by love in that question.

I have experienced forms of love at first sight, and other forms of love, and i also know about the popular cultural myths of love.

If you mean the Disney formula, or the popular cultural ideal of love, or if you mean an actual love relationship, no those don’t happen at first sight.

But yes you can certainly have a natural connection with someone at first sight that could lead to an actual healthy love relationship, if you’re quite fortunate and you’re both ready for an actual healthy love relationship.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

Sometimes the silent queues are the most powerful. It’s not too hard to get the gist of someone’s personality just by watching how they move and act without them even having to say a word. This is of course lust as mentioned. Love takes many years.

SEKA's avatar

Yes, I believe in love at first sight. I knew from the very first word my husband said to me that we would be together forever. I know it sounds crazy, but I did know. My friend says I was just lucky. Who knows, maybe she was right, but our love has only grown stronger since the day we first met. We have been married for 10 years and dated for 5 before getting married.

KNOWITALL's avatar

Yeah I do, knew the moment I laid eyes on my husband, he was the one. I fought it because I wasn’t in the best head space, didn’t want it at all, but couldn’t shake it.

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