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Why do some people tend to idealize so much the person they are staring to get know?

Asked by Plentylove09 (113points) June 20th, 2020 from iPhone

Is idealizing someone a realistic thing? or an exaggeration of the physique/qualities of the person they are getting to know.

I find this topic very complex and somehow interesting, of how powerful the mind can be.

Example: My girlfriend dated a guy that she went head over heals for him, she said it was the most handsome, sexy, greatest man ever, and the rest of us never saw that, he was just an ok guy.

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lucillelucillelucille's avatar

Sooner or later, limerence fades and gives way to reality.
I wonder why your girlfriend would tell you all that?
Tell her that you’re envious of her imagination…

stanleybmanly's avatar

Lovestruck! Most of us have been there. There’s nothing rational about falling in love.

gorillapaws's avatar

Confirmation bias.

SEKA's avatar

When we first meet them, they are perfect as we can still see what it is that we want them to be. After a while, we see their true nature and discover that perfect is the wrong word to describe them

Now, if we fall in love with them, we learn the true meaning of the old saying Love is blind. No matter how stupid they become, we still see the goodness in them at least until we get past the love stage

KNOWITALL's avatar

I think we simply see what we want to see if we are attracted to someone. We also tend to maximize positives and minimize negatives so the seratonin keeps flowing.

@lucille I’m impressed with your vocabulary. I’ve not said that to anyone my entire time here ha!

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@KNOWITALL -Lol! Thanks! I’ve not heard that my entire time here!

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