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How do you solve this hypothetical situation about abuses and not going to the police?

Asked by luigirovatti (2836points) July 25th, 2020

I have later another situation for part 2, but, for the moment I’ll present this one, then the possible solutions. Here it goes:

You have a daughter and a husband that abuses you. You also have a dead mother and a father that everyone believes dead. You have no money. Not a penny of your own. You don’t even have your own bank account. If you walk out you wouldn’t be able to buy you and your daughter your next meal. Your father can’t help because his state pension barely gets him through the week. You can’t go to the police because you have no scars to show them. No bruises. If you go away your husband will find you. If you’re gonna live with your father, the fact that everyone, including your best friend, thinks your father is dead, and you write “mother and father deceased” on forms, your husband would sue for custody of your daughter. So, what do you do?

Solutions:

1) You contact associations against abuses, but it takes time for the complaint, not to mention the mitigating circumstances, the appeal, etc.
2) You ask your father to pretend to kidnap the daughter, and, at the end, you leave her in a crowded place, and you make her go to the police asking her to tell it was the husband that kidnapped her
3) You talk to the police anyway, as they’ll believe the kid, but it is a stretch, because, what if your daughter is, let’s say, 1-year-old? She can’t express herself.

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