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Nomore_lockout's avatar

Could this woman have been on drugs, or mentally ill?

Asked by Nomore_lockout (7592points) November 19th, 2020

A neighbor woman walked up to my door this morning, and hit on me. I don’t even know her, what the hell?

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RedDeerGuy1's avatar

I guess women can be players too.

Nomore_lockout's avatar

I was coming back in from warming up the car to get the kids to school, and this woman walks up out of the blue, asks if I’m married or have a “girlfriend”, then says she wants to hang out. I told her to hit the road. Don’t like to be rude, but that’ s just insane. LOL

Nomore_lockout's avatar

RedDeerGuy1 That’s not a player, that’s coo coo for coacoa puffs.

cookieman's avatar

Was she acting strange beyond that? It’s admittedly a bit direct but heck, I’d be inclined to be flattered.

“Wow. Thank you so much but I am married. In fact, my wife is in back cleaning her gun collection. Hang on, I’ll get her… HONEY!?”

RedDeerGuy1's avatar

25 years ago some young woman tried putting her hands down my pants. I took off.

Nomore_lockout's avatar

@cookieman Well she was pretty attractive, and if I was 40 years younger and un married, I might have told her, come into my den, says the spider to the fly. But hell to the no. I don’t even know the woman, seen her around the neighborhood a few times, that’s it. I cant even blame this one on Trump. Just crazy.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Was she high on some illegal substance?

Nomore_lockout's avatar

@Dutchess_III I can’t say for sure, but I think she had to be. I mean, who the hell in their in their right mind does that shit? Some horn dog man doing it to a woman, maybe. But a woman doing it to a Man? Get out!

Nomore_lockout's avatar

At Dutchy, I know right? I’m no wuss but it really kinda spooked me. Like I said, I just told her to hit the road. If that makes me rude crude and socially unacceptable, tough.

janbb's avatar

@Nomore_lockout I don’t think one woman casually hitting on you means the whole country has lost their minds. Now, if it were 150 million women lining up to hit on you, that might make a headline!

Nomore_lockout's avatar

@janbb I just meant that in the sense that people act so crazy these days. And you have to admit that’s pretty whacked out behavior. For a woman anyway. Not that its acceptable for a guy to do that to a woman either. But men are more doglike at times, I always figured women had more good sense, or decorum if you will. I mean I’ve had that happen a few times before, but it was women I had known awhile, at work or whatever. And I didn’t even appreciate it then, but a tea total stranger? Give me a break.

elbanditoroso's avatar

Prostitutes have gone into the home delivery business.

Nomore_lockout's avatar

LOL @ elbanditoroso, Makes you wonder, don’t it?

elbanditoroso's avatar

@Nomore_lockout be charitable. Maybe she needed extra Christmas money. Maybe she had a job and was laid off, and now she wants to be laid on.

Nomore_lockout's avatar

Nope, not this guy. I am a married man and I love my woman, so all my needs are met, if you catch my drift. If she has issues, I’m sure there are plenty of single and younger guys around who would be happy to help her out.

Nomore_lockout's avatar

Anyway if she had just needed money, I’d have given it to her. I help out homeless people when I can, l have always been a sucker for a sob story. Take it and go. No need for her to “work it off”.

chyna's avatar

What did your wife say about it?

Nomore_lockout's avatar

Fortunately she was still asleep, I had got up and readied the grand kiddos for school so she could sleep in. I did tell her about it, we have no secrets. She had the same reaction I did, the woman must be crazy. Normal people just don’t do that.

Dutchess_III's avatar

You mean normal women don’t do that. Men did it to me all the time.

Nomore_lockout's avatar

You’re right Dutchy. As I said, it’s much more likely to happen to a woman. But to a guy? That’s what threw me for a loop. And just out of the blue at my own residence, not even at a club from a woman who had a few too many drinks on board. People are loco today. Just bonkers.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Sounds like she was on something. As others were suggesting, she may have been angling for money. Addicts have always been loco.

Nomore_lockout's avatar

Well I think so too, as far as her being on some shit. I would have spared her a few bucks if she had asked. But I have no need of her “services”. Like I say, I have given money to homeless people before when I can spare it.

cookieman's avatar

Ya know, I gotta say y’all are overlooking the possibility that @Nomore_lockout is just irresistible.

Darth_Algar's avatar

_“Dear Penthouse,

You won’t believe what happened to me…“_

Nomore_lockout's avatar

@cookieman Shit. I wish. Well, 40 years ago I wished. These days I’m all good, LOL

Nomore_lockout's avatar

I guess I can blame it all on Trump, what the hell. Just kidding, don’t get all political on me.

Zaku's avatar

It seems to me that the craziest thing you’ve described so far is your blind spot about your own extreme double-standard. You even say your age and marital status are the only things that make you un-receptive.

Nomore_lockout's avatar

Well yeah. If I were younger and single I admit I would consider it. I’m just old and married, I’m not dead.How is that a double standard? And if you don’t see an issue with a a woman wandering around a residential area hitting on strange men, then I have to wonder about you…

Dutchess_III's avatar

Of course we see the problem with her behavior. But it’s kind of disturbing that there are certain circumstances under which you’d take her up on her desperate, sleazy offer. That’s just gross.

Jeruba's avatar

I don’t know how you generalize from one messed-up woman to the whole country. I’m pretty disgusted with the way things are at present, but I haven’t lost my mind. And I won’t be accosting anyone.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Aw comm’on @Jeruba’ let’s make a girl’s night of it and see how many men we can successfully accost!

Mimishu1995's avatar

I don’t care what she is on, if I were you I would just say “thanks, but I’m engaged” and slam the door.

I was hit on by a creepy guy just a few days ago. I told him I need to get some work done and logged out. He said he was 15 but I suspect thay he could be a horrifying old man behind the avatar. But I don’t care to know. What I care is that he’s creepy, and I don’t want anything to do with him.

Nomore_lockout's avatar

LOL @ Dutchess_III Classy and intelligent gals like you and Jeruba don’t do stuff like that, get off it. This woman had some serious issues. Never saw anything quite like that. If she has a habit of doing that she might come to a bad end some day. Just sayin’,

Nomore_lockout's avatar

@Mimishu1995 Good move Mimi. You have too much on the ball to get caught up with some loser cretin like that.

Nomore_lockout's avatar

@Mimishu1995 And the experience you had is kind of what I was talking about, in that it is much more likely to happen to a woman than to a man. I just told her to get on down the road.

Mimishu1995's avatar

@Nomore I know. And it pains me that because it doesn’t happen to men so often men aren’t taken as seriously as women. Creepy people are creepy, no matter which gender.

Nomore_lockout's avatar

I’d agree with that Mimi. Good point. That’s kinda what blew my mind with that. Uh, isn’t this supposed to work the other way around?

Dutchess_III's avatar

Please tell me that you didn’t think, for one second, that I was remotely serious @Nomore_lockout….???

And it was kind of frightening,wasn’t it @mimi. I doubt @Nomore was the least bit frightened. And that’s a huge difference between a man getting hit on by a female and vise versa.

Nomore_lockout's avatar

@Mimishu1995 And sometimes the response is like, what you don’t like this? You’re a guy so you must be gay or an old grouch. No I’m neither, but if I do it to you I’m a shame a disgrace perv, you do it to me its cool? Don’t think so. I have detected a double standard about this kind of thing over the years.

Nomore_lockout's avatar

Oh good grief Dutchy I was only kidding. No, I knew you weren’t serious. Apologies.

Mimishu1995's avatar

@Nomore if someone hits on you and then tells you you’re gay for turning them down, that’s emotional manipulation. I hate it when it happens.

@Dutchess yeah, I was scared but I don’t think Nomore is. But it still doesn’t make his situation less jarring than mine.

janbb's avatar

Unless there was something more salacious to it than the way it was described, I really don’t see what the big deal is. It’s not the end of the known world for a woman to approach a man she finds attractive.

Nomore_lockout's avatar

In my own driveway and out of the blue? Come on now…and I assure you I ain’t “attractive’. Had to sneak up on the hose to get air in my tires today.

cookieman's avatar

@janbb: Very true. For example, if a penguin were to make her way up my driveway…

Nomore_lockout's avatar

@Dutchess_III “That’s just gross.” Gosh Dutchy, that’s hurtful. : (

Dutchess_III's avatar

Ok you imply that she must be on drugs or have mental issues to approach you like that, yet you consider taking advantage of her desperation to be a perfectly normal response? How do you figure?

janbb's avatar

@cookieman Just waiting for the first big snowstorm and watch out!

Nomore_lockout's avatar

@Dutchess_III Not at all. I only meant that, 40 odd years ago, if I had been suddenly confronted with a similar, not an identical situation, I might have taken her up on her offer. As I believe any honest man would tell you the same. As said, she was attractive. And all the work was already done. And she approached ME, not the other way around. In those days, my attitude was you ask for it, you got it, Toyota. Obviously if I had felt the woman was on drugs or had mental issues, hell to the no. But if a normal, functioning woman was just hitting on me off the cuff, well a man’s got to take what he can get, when we can get it. And I’d have never done that to a woman, I actually went t to jail one time for defending a woman I knew. A guy at a swimming party we were at together, had made an off color remark to her, and I belted him and knocked him into the swimming pool. Different situation of course, but If that other makes me gross then oh well. Damn, that’s almost as bad as being told I had the attention span of a cock roach. And I have forgotten what that was all about.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Well you completely changed the scenario so….

Nomore_lockout's avatar

Oh well, we’re good no big whoop. Think I’ll grab some coffee, lost in the ozone here anyway.

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