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Nomore_lockout's avatar

Am I being a cranky asshole, or am I justified?

Asked by Nomore_lockout (5262points) 2 weeks ago

My wife is in a grumpy mood today. We can’t find our grandsons baseball jersey (game tonight) my boss is dogging me to work OT tonight which I won’t do because of the game, and my cousin called and I didn’t answer the phone because I’m fed up with every one today. Am I out of line, or justified? Cuz just wants to discuss our planned reunion, and I could care less about that now.

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jca2's avatar

Tell your cousin there’s a lot going on right now and you’ll call him back later on in the week.

You’re stressed out and have a lot going on. It’s understandable.

Nomore_lockout's avatar

Thank ya! Stressed to the max now.

jca2's avatar

I predict once you find the jersey, you’ll be less stressed out.

Nomore_lockout's avatar

If we find it. Ought to let him get benched the whole game to teach him a lesson. Not to much to expect a 10 year old to keep track of his own shit. But he’s the best pitcher and one of the best hitters, so it’s not fair to the coaches and team mates.

Mimishu1995's avatar

Sorry you had a bad day. But at least message your cousin and tell him/her that you are stressed out and need to be alone for some time. He/she deserves to know what’s going on.

I did a similar thing to my friend when she needed my help. I was drowning in my thesis at that time. I messaged her saying that I needed to sort out my work and would call her back in a week, and we arranged our date. Everyone was happy.

mazingerz88's avatar

All perfectly natural imo.

kritiper's avatar

You are a cranky asshole. But not a real bad one…
FIND THAT JERSY! Then you’ll feel better.
“Business before pleasure” so go to work! The game isn’t that important…

Zaku's avatar

Go outside, express all crank in your own company (or witnessed by someone willing to witness, if you have such a person) and take some deep breaths. Expressing crank is very worthwhile, but not if you’re dumping it on other people who aren’t volunteering to witness it.

You and/or wife work as non-judgementally as you can with the kid to find the jersey, modelling calm effective finding skills. When was the last time he saw it? Has anyone else been involved in where it went? Etc.

Tell boss you have previous serious personal obligation tonight.

Tell cousin you’ll call them back.

Go to the game.

Enjoy being alive with your family.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Just roll with it. It’s OK.

Nomore_lockout's avatar

@Dutchess_III All good now, we found the dumb jersey about 10 minutes ago. Dang kids drive us crazy. Guess I need to call Cuz back. Wish I had never volunteered to pull this together. Hell she and her hubby own a travel agency. They could put this together easier than I can.

chyna's avatar

NOW you’re being cranky. :-)

Nomore_lockout's avatar

@chyna Lmao Well, thanks for the vote of No confidence. Nothing a Lone Star tall boy cant resolve. If I can convince my wife to go to the mall with her friend. Those damn beers just jump out of the fridge and smack me, when Mama Bear isn’t around.

JLeslie's avatar

Just make a date with your cousin to discuss so he knows you aren’t trying to blow him off altogether.

KNOWITALL's avatar

Sound cranky to me. It’s a jersey, a game and maybe extra money. All first-world problems, friend.
Maybe count your blessings, plaster on a smile and wade back in. Hugs.

gorillapaws's avatar

You sound cranky. We’re all entitled to being cranky when we’re having a shitty day. Hope you find the jersey, and your grandson’s team wins. Tomorrow will probably be better.

tedibear's avatar

” But he’s the best pitcher and one of the best hitters, so it’s not fair to the coaches and team mates.”

Maybe having his teammates and coaches upset with him will be a better reminder to keep track of his jersey than having grandma and grandpa upset with him. It’s definitely not too much to ask a ten year old to keep track of at least some of his stuff! Cause and effect little dude, cause and effect.

gondwanalon's avatar

You are entitled to feel cranky. You are not entitled to take it out on others.

“Smile though your heart is aching
Smile even though it’s breaking
When there are clouds in the sky you’ll get by
If you smile through your fear and sorrow
Smile and maybe tomorrow
You’ll see the sun come shining through
For you” -Nat King Cole

“As you think so shall you be”. -Bruce Lee

“What you think about comes about” -Mark Hansen

Mimishu1995's avatar

@Nomore_lockout How are you feeling now?

Nomore_lockout's avatar

Well we found the dang jersey and his team won 7–2. So all good I suppose. But that’s why I paid 30 bucks for a bag was to keep his stuff in. Kids… Golden Years my ass. @Mimishu1995

LuckyGuy's avatar

So??? Where was the jersey? Under the bed? In the laundry pile?
Enquiring minds want to know. :-)

Nomore_lockout's avatar

Not sure, my wife found it stuffed in a drawer I think. I was at the end of my tether and went out on the porch, for a cigar and cup of coffee. I told his coach what happened, but they started wigging out thinking he wouldn’t make it to the game, and told me. “We love that kid, he’s out best athlete!” Well, happy to know that, but if he’d concentrate as hard on using his noggin as he does on sports, he’s be doing good. But it all worked out in the wash.

Mimishu1995's avatar

@Nomore_lockout Glad everything is resolved in the end. You are no longer cranky :D

Nomore_lockout's avatar

@Mimishu1995 LOL Not now, but the day is young! Give me time gal!

jca2's avatar

I couldn’t find my daughter’s basketball shirt once, and there was a game that afternoon. I asked the coach if he might possibly have an extra shirt she could wear, not realizing (or remembering) that it’s not just a shirt, it’s got her number on it so it identifies her when she’s running around on the court. Thankfully we found it before the game. I know that stuff is stressful.

Nomore_lockout's avatar

@jca2 Absolutely my friend. Kids don’t realize what they put us through. When I was that age, I was cool headed and responsible at all times. You believe that, don’t you? In the words of an old song, “Why cant they be like we were, perfect in every way? What’s the matter with kids, today?”

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