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Did you know member Darth Algar?

Asked by anniereborn (15385points) April 27th, 2021

Darth Algar was my dear sweet husband. He passed away on April 25th after a long illness. He enjoyed Fluther very much (even if he was an ass sometimes, which he would thoroughly admit). I will miss him with my entire being. He was an amazing human.

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RedDeerGuy1's avatar

Wow… We where just getting over our differences, he helped to ground me. Thank you anniereborn.

jca2's avatar

I’m so, so sorry, @anniereborn. My sympathy goes out to you and your family, and to us as a community for the loss of another community member.

canidmajor's avatar

Oh, @anniereborn , I am so sorry for your loss. I enjoyed very much both arguing and agreeing with him. His intelligence and passion will be sorely missed.
Loves and hugs to you.

chyna's avatar

Oh no @anniereborn! I’m so very sorry for your loss as well as the collective’s loss.
I very much enjoyed Darth’s answers and questions here. He made me laugh far more than he made me roll my eyes.
Please lean on us as you need to get through this very hard time. Hugs.

janbb's avatar

Oh, I am so sorry @anniereborn ! He was so smart and sharp and he did not suffer the fools here at all! I came to really respect both his wit and his wisdom. I will miss his presence here and am very sad for your loss.

Feel free to PM for support or to ask for it here. How very sad.

hello321's avatar

What? :( So sorry @anniereborn.

anniereborn's avatar

He had Congestive Heart Failure due to a Congenital Heart Defect. My poor man had open heart surgery at 11 months old and dealt with hospitals and doctors all of his 43 years.

janbb's avatar

@anniereborn Oh sweetie! And oh, Darth! Way too young!

longgone's avatar


I’m so, so sorry, @anniereborn. I only learned that you two were married a year ago or so, and I’ve smiled at the sweet little references you made towards each other ever since. I like Darth. He’s a good guy, and he’ll be remembered.

You must be in pain. We’re here for you. PM me if you’d like to talk – I really mean it.

Hawaii_Jake's avatar

@anniereborn I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. How devastating! I wish you peace.

I enjoyed Darth on here. He was so very intelligent, and he wrote so well. He will be sorely missed.

kritiper's avatar

So sorry to hear that. My condolences!
And he really could be a hard sell here, but I always enjoyed his point of view.

Inspired_2write's avatar

My condolences may he Rest in Peace now.

Its so sad that at only in his 40’s that he passed, unexpectedly.

I hope that he didn’t suffer in the end. Peace be with him now.

And sympathies for his remaining family members as well… especially though this tough couple of Covid years.

He was along time regular here on Fluther and it was nice to talk to a variety of people from

different cities, different viewpoints that we as a collective group are so fortunate to connect

using this platform.

Peace be with you.

Love_my_doggie's avatar

@anniereborn Throughout all these years, I’d had no idea that you and @DarthAlgar were married. I can’t say that I knew your husband well, although I had grown to like and respect him.

How very tragic to lose someone you love, and at such a young age. My thoughts are with you.

KNOWITALL's avatar

I’m sorry for your loss. He was very sharp and not afraid to counter anyone’s opinions, which annoyed and impressed me. Hugs.

Dutchess_III's avatar

I am so, so sorry @anniereborn. So sorry.

Zaku's avatar

Oh no!

Good of you to let us know.

Caravanfan's avatar

May his memory be a blessing.

JLeslie's avatar

Another jelly just told me Darth passed away and about this Q. I can’t believe it.

I knew he had life long heart issues, but had no idea his life might be in eminent danger. I’m so very sad to hear of his passing, even though he razzed me on many a Q. Lol.

He was so young.

@anniereborn I didn’t know you two were married. My deepest condolences to you and the rest of your family. I’m so very sorry for your loss. I’m so glad he was a part of the collective. He definitively contributed a different perspective on many topics and I learned new things from him. He will be missed.

cookieman's avatar

Oh no! I quite liked Darth actually. I’m so sorry for your loss @anniereborn. Thank you fir letting us know. ((HUGS))

Jeruba's avatar

Oh, Annie, I’m so sorry. That’s a terrible loss to bear. You have my sympathy.

Here are two books I’ve found tremendously helpful myself during the past three months:

Joan Didion, The Year of Magical Thinking

Frank Ostaseski, The Five Invitations: Discovering What Death Can Teach Us About Living Fully

I’ve been unable to keep up my usual reading habits, but I’ve read these, and they were just what I needed.

Yes, I certainly paid attention to Darth_Algar’s posts. They were very incisive, sometimes a little too sharp, but dependably clear and intelligent. I respected his views and his apt contributions.

Tropical_Willie's avatar

{{{{{ HUGS }}}}}

rebbel's avatar

Hi Annie,
What a sad, sad news…
My thoughts are with you, and both your families.
I don’t think I have ever crossed swords, or teamed up with your husband, or at least can’t remember if I did.
I do know that I always read his contributions, and 9 out of 10 times I thought they were well thought out answers/opinions.
And also usually I totally agreed.
It’s very shocking (always when a tragic death occurs) to realize that life can be cut short abruptly.
And so, so young…
I wish you strength in these challenging times.

KRD's avatar

Aw I’m so sorry to hear that! he was a good man here on the collective. I’ll miss him here.

mazingerz88's avatar

Oh no. So sorry to know he’s gone. My deepest condolences. :(

LuckyGuy's avatar

Oh Annie, I am so sorry for your loss. That is too young.

He and I had a couple of discussions offline about things. Ironically one of them was regarding the question about our Health Directive about a month ago.
We will miss his straightforward writing and opinions.

Jonsblonde's avatar

Annie, I’m so sorry for your loss. Very few people would cause me to come back here. Darth is one of them.

I had so much respect for Darth. I looked forward to his responses and always noticed when he wasn’t around. Fluther won’t be the same without him.

Sending love to you during this difficult time. xx

flutherother's avatar

I’m sorry to hear that @anniereborn and I appreciate you letting us know. Darth was sometimes outspoken but personally, I don’t remember ever disagreeing with anything he wrote. Though I knew you and Darth only through this site I am thinking of you this evening.

mazingerz88's avatar

I’m going to miss Darth’s posts like these fairly recent ones.

Strauss's avatar

@anniereborn, I’m truly sad to hear this. Hugs to you. I really liked to see what he had to say, and I will miss his posts.

anniereborn's avatar

It does my heart good to see that you all noticed how special he was. It truly means a lot to me.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Love you @Anniereborn.

smudges's avatar

I see that Darth only asked 2 questions; that tells me he was more interested in what others had to say. He was very special, indeed. I’m sorry for your loss, @anniereborn, and for ours collectively. Be especially kind to yourself during this painful time.

crazyguy's avatar

I had a love-hate relationship with Darth. He was occasionally on my do-not-respond list; but I always enjoyed reading his posts. I am so sorry to hear that he passed away. So sorry, Annie.

SQUEEKY2's avatar

So sorry to hear this my deepest condolences I loved the way he wasn’t shy when dealing with our fright wing fans.

Kardamom's avatar

Oh dear, I am so, so, so sorry for your personal loss, and for the loss of one of our members. I hope you are doing OK, Annie.

Jeruba's avatar

I hope it’s ok to ask, because I’ve wondered for a long time: was his avatar a picture of him? Sometimes I thought it might be an author or other known figure that I was supposed to recognize.

mazingerz88's avatar

^^Me too. I always wondered the same each time I saw his avatar. I’m going to miss it a lot.

anniereborn's avatar

His avatar was a picture of one of his favorite chess masters, Mikhail Tal. Thank you for asking.

janbb's avatar

Can you also tell us what his user name meant? I kind of assume it was a combination of Darth Vader and Horatio Alger but I don’t know if I made that up out of whole cloth! I always enjoyed reading what he had to say – pithy and strongly worded!

And how are you holding up?

Jeruba's avatar

Oh, I saw Algar as a place name. Yes, I’m curious too.

Your loss is so fresh, @anniereborn, that it’s probably still just overwhelming. Knowing that it will grow gentler with time doesn’t help much right now. I’m glad you are able to come here at all and respond to us.

Are you as all right as you can be? And do you have help and support with the practical matters that inevitably follow?

Jeruba's avatar

Are you planning to leave his profile up so we can still seek out his answers and comments?

KRD's avatar

What @Jeruba said.^

Jonsblonde's avatar

I do wish I could see the face behind the avatar. He’s a person I would have enjoyed meeting irl. If I’m not mistaken we live within driving distance? (I’m in Madison, Wi.)

anniereborn's avatar

His name was a character in the movie Wayne’s World. Yes I plan to leave everything up.
I am holding up okay. But it is of course very very hard. He was my best friend and my love. Waking up every morning without him is so tough. I get up and say “okay, now what?”

anniereborn's avatar

@Jeruba Yes, I am very lucky to be the youngest of 7, so my siblings have been very supportive, also my in laws.

SQUEEKY2's avatar

Stay strong, I don’t know what I would do if life took Mrs Squeeky from me.

anniereborn's avatar

@SQUEEKY2 If I didn’t have the friends and family that I do and our kitty, I don’t think I could even get up in the morning.

Dutchess_III's avatar


KRD's avatar

@SQUEEKY2 that would be awful if Mrs Squeeky passed.

raum's avatar

Oh, @anniereborn.
I’m so so sorry.

I will really miss his presence and his words on Fluther. They were cutting and clever in just the right way.

We are all lucky to have gotten a chance to know him. And thank you for keeping his account up. It is comforting to be able to go back through old questions. I hope we can be some comfort to you in all of this too.


filmfann's avatar

Sorry to hear this. We had our differences, but I always respected his heart.
He will be missed.

Mimishu1995's avatar

I was too late to see this thread. I just came here to say I’m so sorry for your loss. I didn’t get to know him much, but I really appreciated his witty answer on here. He was one of the people here who had a way of letting people see things in another perspective.

I’m sorry I didn’t see this thread earlier.

anniereborn's avatar

@Mimishu1995 I’m kinda glad you didn’t see it earlier. I miss him so much. This is so hard. Many people kind of fade away after the first month. So seeing this after the second month does my heart good. Thank you for your kind words.

chyna's avatar

@annierwborn He will be remembered here for years to come. Even if he’s not mentioned, when we see old posts that he pops up on, we will shake our heads in memory of him, thinking yeah, I miss him.

anniereborn's avatar

@chyna Thank you. That makes my heart happy

Mimishu1995's avatar

@anniereborn I’m so glad you found my post helpful. Losing a loved one is always hard. I can give you a virtual hug.


raum's avatar

@anniereborn Darth will always be a part of Fluther and in our collective hearts and memory.

[sending hugs for now and a few for you to keep in your pocket for later]

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