Would I be a bad person for not confronting this bully?

Honestly, that seems pretty minor for online gaming.

Would have been nice to speak up. But definitely nothing to beat yourself up about.

(I love this question, BTW)

You won’t. precisely speaking, “be a bad person” if you don’t.

But if you do a good job of mentioning it, you and everyone might end up ultimately better off and feeling better about the situation and yourselves. So it’s an opportunity to make a difference for everyone involved… and maybe for many other people in the future.

That is, if you make an impression on the guy, he may not behave as badly to many other people in the future, and it may ultimately help him process whatever chip he’s got on his shoulder that’s having him act that way.

You could also mention to the 11 year old that he’s not “dumb” and that guy was being mean to him and that was a lame thing for him to do, and you hope he doesn’t feel bad about it, and that it was fun playing with him. That might make a difference for him.

And, even if you don’t do any of that perfectly (or even if you mess some of it up) at least you will have tried, and that will probably be better for you (as you writing this shows you care about people, have a good conscience, and you value your own opinion of your own behavior, and that it might keep bugging you if you don’t), and it can help you learn how to do a good job of such conversations in the future, which makes communicating much easier, and will eventually help with all sorts of relationships in the future.

So, in a different sense of the same words, it may ultimately turn out to make all three of you “better people” in the future, if you talk about it with either or both of them.

Welcome to online gaming. You and your friend were lucky that the guy spoke under his breath. People have been subjected to the f-word and n-word, to name a few. This is also the reason why I avoid online gaming like a plague.

It’s nice to speak to him, but if you don’t that’s fine. It’s just a random stranger on the Internet and it’s not like you are going to meet him everyday or something.

I don’t know anything about gaming, but I think that an actual bad person doesn’t worry much about being a bad person.