If you had cancer would you want to be included in an activity you used to do but can’t anymore?

Asked by JLeslie (65416) November 9th, 2021 from iPhone

The instructor for my folk dancing has cancer and is in treatment. She suspended the dance classes for now while she does her chemo.

We always perform at the Menorah Lighting celebration for Chanukah where I live. She’s unable to perform and she is being especially careful regarding covid.

We would still love for her to come to practice and advise us if she feels able and safe. No matter what, we will still be acknowledging her as the group leader if the event is reported in the newspaper. She will be included even if she doesn’t attend. Usually, there is a piece in the paper about the the performance.

My question is, do you think it will make her feel worse if she knows when we are practicing? Will it be easier for her to not be reminded she is missing it? If she can come we welcome her helping us with the choreography as always.

I also would like to get some of the music from her. I only have a few of the songs, and we are accustomed to versions she has. Prior to her illness she was always very generous with letting people copy songs if they wanted one, but now I feel it might be hurtful to ask.

What do you think?