My stepbrother just told me he takes cocaine occasionally at parties. See details for ?

He said he was telling me as a way of ‘accountability,’ that he wants to slow it down. He said what happens is he has a couple glasses of wine at dinner, ends up going to a party. There is Coke there. He takes it, stays up all night, has unsafe sex, and ends up sleeping all day…

During this time he had also told me how badly in debt he was and if I could ‘help’ him out…I said I wasn’t in the business of ‘helping out,’ but I’d think about a loan—asked him to send me his total indebtedness. He can stop anytime he wants…says he.

I told him it sounds like ‘addict talk’ to me [my mother was a heroin user]. he asked me to please separate my experience from his and be open.

One is it addiction?
Two, if I should want to loan him money, I’m thinking making NO DRUGS a condition, along with pee tests, if I ask.

What do you think??? sorry it’s long…

Then I asked him if he could not do cocaine for 5 months. He looked funny, then said, ‘yeah, he could…but he doesn’t want to.”

He says he’s NOT addicted. That ‘maybe’ it’s a lifestyle addiction.