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Is this a healthy relationship if the couple don't fight at all?

Asked by Samantha4One (1328points) March 31st, 2022

Hello,

I wanna know, In a relationship(married life or dating) if the couple don’t fight over their decisions and agree with what each other wants to do, is this considered healthy?

Is it necessary to argue / fight every once in a while to keep things going in future?

Regards!

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LadyMarissa's avatar

I don’t know that not fighting is unhealthy; however, I’m of the opinion that the healthiest marriages that I’ve seen are those who have major disagreements every so often. They know how to communicate well & work TOGETHER toward a common goal!!!

Forever_Free's avatar

I do not believe this is the measure of a healthy relationship. What is your definition of “fight”?
There are so many more things that go into healthy relationships.
Healthy respectful discussions over things is not fighting, yet key to a good relationship.
Feeling safe in being able to discuss things is healthy.
Openly communicating is healthy. No power struggles is healthy.

Not disagreeing is not necessarily a bad sign.

snowberry's avatar

No. A healthy relationship means both parties know how to resolve their differences and how to respectfully disagree otherwise. It’s worked for decades for me.

SEKA's avatar

I was raised in a family that believed that you had to fight well in order to love well. Looking back, they had very few fights, but many heated discussions. My hubs and I don’t fight but we don’t always agree either. We find a way to reach that happy medium. I used to work with a couple who had a huge fight every night just when it was time to go home. Their roommate said they came through the door every night that they fought tearing each others clothes off heading straight to the bedroom. Apparently fighting worked for them, but it wouldn’t work for me—to each his own

gondwanalon's avatar

I’ve been married to my wife for 31 years. We never argue. I have never raised my voice in anger to my wife. My wife has yelled at me but I alway let it go. I wait until she blows off steam and then we talk about the problem.

LadyMarissa's avatar

^^ That’s another angle…sometimes you simply have to CHOOSE your battles!!! My Mom didn’t fight with dad yet she ALWAYS got her way by saying nothing!!!

Nomore_Tantrums's avatar

Ditto @LadyMarissa When my wife gives me the silent treatment, I know I have stepped in it, but luckily that rarely happens. The idiocy of both of our immediate families causes more issues for us than anything between the two of us. If she blows her stack with her bro or sis I’ll tell her to just calm down and let it go. But then if one of my sisters pisses me off and I go on a rant, she will always tell me “Practice what you preach Tim. Did you just call your Sis a bitch? Now what was it you were telling me last week?” Ok point taken lol

SnipSnip's avatar

I don’t know where to begin, dear. The number of fights doesn’t a healthy relationship make or break.

Zaku's avatar

No, healthy relationships do not require fights.

But the opposite is also not true. If something important is upsetting or problematic, and one or both people are avoiding discussing it, that tends not to work out well, in the long run.

Samantha4One's avatar

Thanks for the answers…

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