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What should I do if I am kissed by a girl who is not my gf?

Asked by erebus9 (179points) April 27th, 2022

Yesterday a girl kissed me… The only problem is that she was not my gf…
What should I do?
How should I react?

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18 Answers

elbanditoroso's avatar

Kiss her back! Of course.

You probably ought to inform the GF though to protect your own butt.

JLoon's avatar

First, rule out suicide.

You should also consult with a qualified attorney and review your options. Legally this may be considered assault, and you could be eligible for damages.

Besides that you need to think carefully about the facts:

• How do you know this wasn’t your girlfriend?
• Did she honestly believe you might be her boyfriend?
• Was it really a kiss, or was she trying to save your life because you were you unconscious & unresponsive?

The only reasonable thing to do is have sex with her. And your girlfriend. Then compare.

I hope this was helpful. If not the moderaters will delete my answer, even if I kiss you.

LostInParadise's avatar

Was it a kiss on the cheek? Girls and women are allowed to do that as an expression of affection. Don’t get carried away by it.

Poseidon's avatar

There is nothing to react to.

Simply enjoy it.

LadyMarissa's avatar

You have several choices…

1. You can tell her that it made you feel uncomfortable & ask her politely to NOT do it again ever!!!

2. You can accept it in the manner for which it was given…more than likely friendship.

3. IF she kissed you on the cheek, she might have been flirting. OR it might have been her way of saying “thank you” for something that you did NICE for her!!! I have kissed a guy on the cheek in my attempt to show appreciation for something that he had done nice for me.

IF she kissed you on the lips, you are NOT required to kiss her back. That’s a good way to show her that you’re NOT interested in kissing her!!!

Forever_Free's avatar

It depends on your age.
0–4 – keep kissing
5–10 – you are dating
11–14 – you are married
15–22 – Do nothing. Its normal activity at this age
23–25 – Text her and ask if you can kiss their significant other.
26–29 – Give your gf her number so they can kiss. Ask if you can watch.
30–50 – If you are male, send a D Pic out of the blue
30–50 – if you are female, ask her over to do a sage cleansing of your house
50–59 – Go for it again. This is your final calling sexually
60–65 – Make an appointment with your therapist to go over it in detail
65–69 – Fantasize about it because this will be the last time this happens
70–79 – Go to the bathroom and have a BM. At this age a good BM is even better than a kiss or a BJ
80–99 – If you are even aware of this, thank god you recognize and remember it even happened.
100 and over – You are now married to that person.

Inspired_2write's avatar

If unwelcomed then have better boundaries..in that do not LET another kiss you whenever THEY think that its OK.
You take responsibility for your actions or no actions in this case.

Depends on your age, your relationship with your GF if its comitted relationship or just someone in your life.
People male and or female have several friends that are affectionate and some concure that as a relationship titled GF or BF.
Find out whether yours is definate GF only relationship or open and causual or not?

kritiper's avatar

Tell this girl that you have a girlfriend, then keep your distance from her. (If you value your relationship with your gf. It wouldn’t hurt to tell the gf about it. You know, honesty is ALWAYS the best policy!)

Jeruba's avatar

Say “Thank you, that was nice.” Then—if it was unwanted—move away politely and quickly so as to discourage any more.

Do you have a girlfriend?

SnipSnip's avatar

Talk to your mom.

rebbel's avatar

@Forever_Free What’s a BM?
(And do I want to know?)

raum's avatar

Bowel Movement

rebbel's avatar

Aha.
Thank you, @raum.

raum's avatar

Always here to spread my wealth of poop knowledge.~

Pandora's avatar

Kissed on the cheek, and you are an adult and it was to show gratitude, no problem. Unless she is your boss .

Kissed on the lip with some tongue action and you responded in kind. Then you may want to consider how you really feel about your girlfriend. If the girl is a minor and you are an adult then you need to seek counseling.
If you are both teens and you didn’t respond just got a peck on the lips and you arent’ interested then just tell the girl, I have a girlfriend and she really shouldn’t go around kissing people without permission because it’s sexual harassment and tell your girlfriend.
If you are interested then break up with your girlfriend. Life is easier when you don’t try to backstab people you are supposed to care about.

smudges's avatar

Ahhh yes, you’re the 18 y.o. who asked if it was ok to send a nude to your 17 y.o. gf.

So if you have a gf, why are you letting someone kiss you? How does one even get in that situation unless they want to be in it? I mean, you had to see her getting closer and closer in those last few seconds and could have drawn back or turned your head. And I tend to think you must have pretty friendly in those minutes beforehand because girls don’t simply walk up to a guy and kiss them out of the blue unless there has been some encouragement.

Is this the younger girl that you dreamt about kissing a few weeks ago? I don’t know what kind of answer you’re looking for, but if you’re looking for exemption, forget it. You knew what you were doing. You’re not an innocent victim. I suspect you are titillated by these games you play. I feel sorry for your gf. I doubt you’re the ‘man’ she thinks you are.

seawulf575's avatar

It’s a kiss, not a commitment for life. The only options you have where the girls are concerned (the one that kissed you and your GF) is to decide who you like. If you like your GF, then tell the other girl thanks but you are spoken for. And tell your girlfriend what happened and what you did. If you like this other girl better, then there is an issue with your relationship with your GF anyway. Break it off with your GF and pursue others.

Jeruba's avatar

Do you have a GF?

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