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Would I be a bad person for not calling out these mean girls for bullying this guy?

Asked by Cindy1302 (553points) 1 month ago

I was playing an online game with a friend of mine that I’ve known for a couple years. We’ve never met in real life but we play games together. I just realized I think she’s kind of toxic. We were playing with one of her friends. I met him yesterday. She would jokingly call him dumb ass and idiot. Idk if he minded or not. I kind of tried calling her out a couple times. When she called him dumb ass I said that “well I doubt he’s a dumb ass”. At one point he said that she’s mean and she was like “because you’re an idiot lol”. I said “wow you are mean”. She was like “im only mean to people who have wronged me”. At one point we were telling eatchother our middle names and the guy friend was really embarrassed to tell us his but he eventually did. I told him he didn’t need to be embarrassed. There is another girl that is regularly in their party and he said that he would never tell her his middle name because she makes fun of him. Idk, it seems like this guy is getting bullied even though he could just not join their party. My question is, is it my responsibility to investigate this? I’d rather not join thier party again, but is it my responsibility to join their party when that other girl is in it just to catch her in the act and call her out? I mean, i don’t just join their party. I get invites. It would really be out of my comfort zone but it seems like it would be the right thing to do.

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Dutchess_III's avatar

Again, butt out. It doesn’t affect you personally

Jeruba's avatar

It’s just not up to you. You don’t have to do anything. You are not a higher power or a one-woman posse for vigilante justice.

Being a bad person has nothing to do with it. That’s a template that simply does not fit most situations.

Jeruba's avatar

You are not responsible for other people’s behavior, or for monitoring it and correcting it, unless they are a child and you are their parent or in loco parentis. For most of us, managing our own behavior is enough.

Samantha4One's avatar

Just stay out of their business.

Patty_Melt's avatar

I think you did the right thing already. You mentioned it. That points out to them that not everyone is impressed by their mistreatment. It also shows the boy that there are better choices around for friends.

In your situation, being a good example is the best way to deal with that unpleasant atmosphere.

Some communities have PSAs about reporting online bullying.
If you see something like that, I think you should call, and maybe learn more.

cheebdragon's avatar

Considering you don’t know how they interact with each other when you’re not in the party, I’d say you should just leave it alone because it’s not your business.

Jonsblond's avatar

Listen to @Patty_Melt. I agree with her 100%.

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