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Celebrating someone's birthday when they're on the street?

Asked by kneesox (4593points) September 11th, 2022

What’s an appropriate and respectful way to celebrate someon’s birthday when they’re homeless?

And what do you think would be insensitive?

What if they can’t clean up well enough to go to a decent resturant?

Should a gift be in line with needs, making it like a charity event, or wants, like when the needs are so obvious that anything for pleasure is almost insulting?

Seems like it’s very hard to be sensitive about it. Painful contrasts with a happier past vs acting like their birthday doesn’t count for anything now.

How do you say happy birthday to a homeless person?

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HP's avatar

Only you can determine the extent to which you are willing to extend yourself. You could simply say it with cash or you could offer the birthday boy/girl a room under your roof. Only you know your limits.

Hawaii_Jake's avatar

I would make a care package. I would fill a backpack with clean socks, toothbrush and paste, smaller size shampoo, bags of peanuts, a refillable water bottle which is the most requested item by homeless people, and clean underwear.

Hugs.

jca2's avatar

The care package idea from @Hawaii_Jake is a great idea. I’d put some more food in it, too, like snacky type foods and maybe some fruit.

LadyMarissa's avatar

What if they can’t clean up well enough to go to a decent restaurant?
Then take them to McDonalds, Taco Bell, or the like. When you’ve not eaten for several days, McDonalds will taste like a steak dinner!!!

Another thought, IF it’s a female, take her some flowers & carry a couple of sandwiches, chips, & drinks with you. The main thing will be to let them know you are thinking about them on their birthday which will give them a few minutes of feeling “special”!!! A guy might appreciate flowers as well, but a girl definitely will!!! Or you can write a special note pointing out that they are special. Or buy a greeting card that says something nice. Or something as simple as a heartfelt hug…most people won’t look at them, much less touch them, so a hug is a rare & beautiful thing!!! Just being nice is more than they get used to while on the streets!!!

raum's avatar

How close are you to them? Have you had enough conversation with them to know what they like? I think getting something for them related to something they’ve mentioned would be appreciated.

A book with a gift card tucked in for a bookmark.

A blanket that’s their favorite color.

I wouldn’t bother with a restaurant. I’d just order takeout for both of you and spend time with them while you eat. :)

raum's avatar

I love that you asked this question.

WhyNow's avatar

This I know ls true. When you light birthday candles and sing ‘happy birthday.’
That persons’ eyes will shine like stars. Don’t overthink it just do it!!!

Gather some others, wrap some presents. Bring small dishes and plastic forks
for the cake. I promise you will never never forget the moment.

smudges's avatar

I think all of these suggestions are appropriate, and great! I agree with @raum – it’s awesome that you asked, and I suspect that you make this person feel special regularly just by being you.

kneesox's avatar

Thanks for all advice and suggestions. I baked cupcakes and took along candles and a lighter. Stuck candles in cupcakes, lit the candles and sang. A small practical present, a Starbucks latte and a card with a gift card inside. They were very pleased and I felt good about it.

smudges's avatar

^^ That’s just awesome!! You’re a very special soul. :)

Hey, we don’t see you around much anymore. You ok? Just busy?

kneesox's avatar

Oh, thanks @smudges. I sort of fade in and out. Mostly lurking. I’m ok, thanks for asking.

smudges's avatar

@kneesox Good to hear. :)

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