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For the women: What's wonderful about being in your 40s?

Asked by St.George (5852points) September 21st, 2008
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sarapnsc's avatar

Not being in my 50’s….

Everything actually…to me it’s no different than when I was in my 30’s, I am quite a bit smarter and wiser, I now know the importance and value of people and things in my life, than when I was in my 30’s. I am more appreciative and humble.

SuperMouse's avatar

Today I turned 43 and so far I have loved my 40’s! I have experienced some major life changes since my 40th birthday, things I’m pretty sure would have destroyed me in my 20’s or 30’s, yet here in my 40’s I am moving through them, embracing them, and I am excited to see what I will find on the other side. I don’t feel like I have to prove myself anymore. I have finally found a spiritual path that I want to follow and I’m excited to be doing so. I learn something every single day whether it is from my kids, my classes, my family. I am done doing things just because they are what is expected of me, even if what I decide to do shocks everyone around me. I have a very clear picture of what I want, where I want to be, and how I am going to get there.

When I turned 30 an acquaintance described the 30’s as red hot and pink. Me? That’s how I would describe my 40’s.

eambos's avatar

I’m neither a woman nor 40, but happy birthday SuperMouse!

AstroChuck's avatar

I second everything Eambos said above.

wildflower's avatar

I second 2 out of 3 of what eambos said!!

Sueanne_Tremendous's avatar

I am 49. I partied last night like I was…well…49. Kids are gone. House is quiet. I have a slumbering beauty in our bed. The house is paid for. The cars are paid for. I can do anything I want at the drop of a hat. I am not embarrassed by anything (except for the occasional fart). Life in my 40’s was far superior to that of my 30’s. Bring on the 50’s!

Edit: Jenn just awoke and saw my post and she says my tits are better then they were in my 30’s. I think she is only slightly kidding and maybe a little horny…..

Lightlyseared's avatar

The fact that 18–20 year old boys suddenly find you irresistible? (well I did any way)

basp's avatar

if you think the forties are good, wait tip you get to the fifties!! They are the best.

kevbo's avatar

@lightlyseared- some of us 30somethings want to jump that as well.

Lightlyseared's avatar

@kevbo I am with you there.

augustlan's avatar

Feeling comfortable in your skin. Even if it’s pudgy, wrinkly skin!

St.George's avatar

Happy Birthday @Supermouse. We share a birthday. I turn 40 today and am loving all this great stuff you’ve shared. Thanks!

syz's avatar

Physically, nothing. In six months time, my arms are suddenly not long enough to read small print. My skin is a completely different texture than it used to be. I’ve noticed a dramatic decrease in my flexibility. I have mystery pains and I just can’t put in the 12 and 14 hour days like I used to.

In spite of that, I refuse to give in. At this relatively late point in my development (44), I’ve done some fairly adventurous travel, I rock climb, I’m shopping for my first motorcycle, and I’m determined to go skydiving some time in the next year.

On the other hand, I’ve finally realized that I don’t care what individuals or society think of me. I have a better idea of what’s important to me and I’m getting better at finding a way to make sure that I take care of me. I’ve finally found someone who is an equal and beloved partner and I’m enjoying a degree of professional success.

And, of course, it’s better than being dead ;)

SuperMouse's avatar

Happy Birthday to you Megan!

marinelife's avatar

Welcome to the decade of woman in bloom. Women are in their sexual peak in their 40s. Several people have mentioned the sense of not caring what others think. I too found that delicious. Along with it, I realized I did not have any of the angst of youth, I liked myself just as I was. I felt sexy, powerful, and enchanted with life.

Happy birthday Megan64 and SuperMouse—the best is yet to be.

St.George's avatar

Thanks Marina…something to look forward to!

cyndyh's avatar

I just turned 44 this past Friday. The kids are grown and moved out. There’s a lot more freedom. Finances are much much better than before. I tend a lot more toward the long view in almost every respect. In my 30s I spent some time moping about “I’ve never done x, y, and z”. In my 40s that became, “This year I’m doing x and y and then we’ll see about z”. I explore a lot more than I used to. It’s easy to make decisions about major aspects of my life without second guessing myself.

And the birthday gifts get better and better. :^>

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