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YARNLADY's avatar

Would you have dinner with a relative who brags about voting for someone you hate?

Asked by YARNLADY (46615points) 6 days ago

I can’t stand this person, so I declined.

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chyna's avatar

No. Why ruin food by having to listen to that?

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Dutchess_III's avatar

If I liked them otherwise, yes I would. But I can ignore people when they talk stupid stuff..

canidmajor's avatar

Nope. Nopity nope nope nope. Just nope.

At this point in my life, at this age, at this place of (literal) survival in my life, I give myself permission to no longer be tolerant of attitudes and biases that I find abhorrent, to “keep the peace” for small events, to eat dinner with someone whose feelings about others are so inhumane that they turn my stomach.

So nope. Absolutely fucking nope.

smudges's avatar

^^ Could you clarify for us?

Tropical_Willie's avatar

You could be snarky and tell them you’ll bring the protein to next year’s Thanksgiving, a couple of pounds of hot dogs.

jca2's avatar

No.

I wouldn’t mind if someone didn’t vote for the same candidates as i did, but I’d appreciate it if they would STFU.

LifeQuestioner's avatar

Possibly? Although if it was something like Thanksgiving dinner, I don’t know. But although we have family members of opposite political views, we all just have this unspoken agreement that we don’t talk politics.

seawulf575's avatar

I guess it would depend on the person and the situation. By the explanation in the question it sounds like the OP doesn’t like the person in question anyway. Why would you have dinner with someone you don’t like? However if that same person was in a large group, say 25 people, and you generally like the group then having dinner with that person would likely be tolerable. There are enough people there to distract from the one you don’t like.

JLeslie's avatar

If they can stifle and not talk politics through the dinner I’d consider it. Otherwise, no, if they are inclined to “brag” that sounds unbelievably annoying and boorish.

I’m assuming this is just the two of you. If it’s a group, like ten members of the family getting together and I want to see the other people then yes I would go and hope for the best. I’d leave early if he couldn’t shut up.

Blackwater_Park's avatar

Depends on how obnoxious they are about it. Casual mention, no big deal. Going on and on and on about it and I’m mentally checking out. That goes for just about any conversation I’m not interested in though (which are most things that people have to talk about at a dinner table). It’s forced small talk and I have been told my entire life that I’m an asshole for not wanting to participate. Now I just go and put on a happy face knowing it’ll eventually be over.

jca2's avatar

I don’t like bragging of any type. I don’t want to hear people talking about their salaries, their children’s salaries, etc.

flutherother's avatar

I suppose I would as it is a relative, but who brags about how they voted? It sounds almost deliberately provocative and if they went on about it at too great a length I might make a show of unlocking the gun cabinet.

mazingerz88's avatar

If said relative is clearly an idiot who thinks someone like Trump is a good person then maybe I will have dinner with him.

If however said relative is willfully ignorant and has malice in his heart who knows Trump is a cruel, corrupt manipulative clown and yet he voted for him…then no.

gorillapaws's avatar

Sure. One of my best friends is a MAGA Republican. I don’t let a person’s flawed beliefs prevent me from enjoying my friends and family.

jca2's avatar

If they were bragging about it throughout your time together, @gorillapaws?

Dutchess_III's avatar

What happens if you ignore them? I mean, no response at all?

gorillapaws's avatar

@jca2 I give it right back. ;D

It’s like jujitsu, I mirror the incoming energy.

jonsblond's avatar

Good for you for declining. I’d do the same.

Pandora's avatar

No dinner is worth the indigestion. However I would like to point out that if the only thing they can brag about in their life is who they voted for, then that person has a very sad life and purely likes to troll because they are a miserable soul.

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