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Does size matter? (details inside)

Asked by krose1223 (3254points) September 27th, 2008

for you boob lovers out there: Does size matter? So, I breastfed my son for about 14 months and in that time I met my current boyfriend… I quit breastfeeding about two months ago and he hasn’t seen me since… (Military.) Needless to say my breasts are significantly smaller in size now. So I’m a little nervous about him seeing me in the nude… I know it’s not going to be a serious problem or anything, but I just don’t feel sexy any more because I have the body of a 12 year old boy…without a penis. Why are boobs such a big deal? What do you think will go through his head when he sees the change?

And I guess while we’e on the topic of size, ladies? Any input?

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poofandmook's avatar

I don’t think you’ll be surprised when I say that if he’s worth being with, he won’t care how big your breasts are.

You could always discuss these image issues with him before you get to the bedroom. If he’s a good guy, he’ll probably tell you that you’re being silly and he loves you the way you are.

MrMontpetit's avatar

If he’s not a total douche bag, it shouldn’t matter.

arnbev959's avatar

MrMontpetit hit it right on the nose.

krose1223's avatar

Ok I guessI didn’t elaborate enough on the he won’t mind part. I’ve already mentioned it to him and it’s more me being slightly self-conscious of my body. I know he loves me, there is no doubt in my mind about that. I just wondering from a guys point of view if he will even think about it.

googlybear's avatar

Hasn’t seen ya for 2 months….don’t think size of boobies will be the first thing on his mind :-).

windex's avatar

So you’re telling me you don’t look like the people on Television?


Everyone knows that in order to be one of us, you have to:

Get Lipo
Get a boob job
Get a nose job
Get Lip enhancement
Get a face lift
Get a tattoo on your lower back
Lower IQ by 100
Sleep with people you meet the 1st night
note to those who want to lecture me: please don’t be obtuse! I’m Clearly being sarcastic, she is obviously perfect the way she is and if someone can’t see that then he is a moron and not worth it.
tnx bye

aneedleinthehayy's avatar

itty bitty titty committee. gotta love em

hearkat's avatar

I understand what you mean. I am plus-size and very curvacous. I am exercising to improve my fitness and to prevent the illnesses that being overweight can lead to. Although I like the idea of weighing less and fitting into smaller clothes, I don’t want to lose my boobs. I have read how difficult it is for many women who lose one or both breasts to mastectomies to redefine their self-image regarding sexuality… I can only imagine.

chromaBYTE's avatar

I remember a comedian saying once that:

“breast size is a lot like coke or pepsi. men might state a preference…

…but they’ll take whatever’s on tap.”

wundayatta's avatar

Hey! I’ve gone to another vendor because the one I was at didn’t have coke! (Pepsi sucks!)

qualitycontrol's avatar

I think that all breasts are beautiful regardless of size. And for that matter, women are beautiful, they give life. Love yourself because you are a woman and you are beautiful.

PS He might notice the change but I don’t think it will be a big issue.

girlofscience's avatar

I don’t really think size is a factor in how attractive breasts are. Just last night, I was at a strip club with my boyfriend and a girlfriend of mine. As we watched the different dancers, we often made comments about how some of them had “great boobs.” Some of those we noted has having particularly great boobs were probably A-cups. They were great in that they were proportional, nicely shaped, and perky. When it comes to boobs, size does not matter, and I actually find smaller breasts to be incredibly classy and attractive.


loser's avatar

I think breasts are beautiful at any size!

qualitycontrol's avatar

So your class is determined by your bra size? that’s what we should be telling our daughters…

acebamboo77's avatar

I think that some men have a preference for larger breasts, but really, it’s not a deal breaker if they aren’t.
This man, says it the best.

deaddolly's avatar

If he care about you, it won’t make any difference If it does; he’s an ass.
Your body is beautiful no matter what size/shape.

MissAnthrope's avatar

A lot of guys seem to like big boobs.. like, the bigger the better. Because I’m gay, I have had quite a few male friends that treated me like one of the guys, so I got to hear their opinions and preferences where women are concerned. However, I think when it boils down to it, as chromaBYTE said, they’ll take whatever’s on tap I’m betting your boyfriend will be so happy to be with you that your breast size won’t even matter (as in, I’m betting he’ll enjoy them just fine!). Especially if he’s been away in the military for a while.. :)

Personally, I loooove smaller breasts. B cup is my favorite, they’re perky, cute, and the perfect size for cupping in my hands. I am not a huge fan of big boobs.. but I am basically attracted to the complete opposite of my body type.

krose1223's avatar

See I agree with what some of you said. To me the female body is beautiful. Not so much in a sexual way, it’s a work of art! I mean I can look at a girls body and be like, yeah she’s hot, but usually I look at her body and I am in awe of the beauty of it. You say smaller are better but you don’t understand… I don’t even need a bra. I can jump up and down and nothing happens. Ha. Put it this way, even breastfeeding I only filled a B cup… and that was being engorged. :( It’s the one thing I am self conscious about, but not enough to do something. I just want to be prepared for my boyfriends reaction… if he even has one. He’s already assured me it doesn’t matter and pretty much said everything you guys have… and of course that makes me feel better. But we all know we tell our SO things to make them feel better, even if we don’t need it.

MissAnthrope's avatar

I know it’s hard to believe it when someone compliments you on something you’re self-conscious about. It seems like maybe you guys haven’t been together for too long, at least not enough time for him to know what your body looks like when you’re not breastfeeding. That’s okay, but have some faith in your boyfriend. It was tough for me, too, but I have finally learned to accept that my partners are as enthusiastic about my body as they say.. even if I don’t see it myself.

stratman37's avatar

which one’s chocolate? Love it!

La_chica_gomela's avatar

Girlofscience, are you saying that big boobs are not classy? Because that would kind of hurt my feelings.

girlofscience's avatar

@La_chica_gomela: Nah, I was just saying that small boobs are (in my argument for small boobs not being a negative thing)—wasn’t saying anything negative about big boobs though!

Bri_L's avatar

@krose1223 – in the end I guess its all a personal thing with guys. I couldn’t care less myself. Big, small, it doesn’t matter. My guess is, much like googlybear said, he will be more interested in you! The whole package.

scamp's avatar

The others are right, he will love you for the wonderful person you are, and probably won’t notice the difference in size at all. I have a feeling that the only reason this may be an issue is because you are so self conscious about it.

Try not to worry about it and let him love you just the way you are. You’re a great person with lots to offer, so you don’t have to worry about that one little detail. please forgive the pun!

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