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Does anyone mind being added to a fluther?

Asked by SoapChef (2978points) October 7th, 2008

I am new at this and am not sure I understand when it is OK to add someone to my fluther. There is a bunch of you flutherites I find fascinating and would like to include you, but I am not sure if I need to formally ask first or what? Please advise.

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El_Cadejo's avatar

ADD AWAY!!! ^_^

La_chica_gomela's avatar

no one minds!! we like it! :)

augustlan's avatar

It’s always a little ego boost : )

EmpressPixie's avatar

Don’t delay, add away!

we likes it, it’s a small ego boost. like a cup of coffee in the morning, only better.

SuperMouse's avatar

Add, add, add!

Maverick's avatar

I don’t really even know what that feature does (but I can guess). However, does it do anything at all on an iPhone (my preferred Fluther client) ?

JackAdams's avatar

I’m very flattered when it happens.

It’s like winning an Emmy┬« for some of my Questions and Answers.

poofandmook's avatar

Unless you know that person is adding you because it’ll piss you off… right before they begin harrassing you via PMs. :)

[whistles and walks away]

AstroChuck's avatar

I feel it is a compliment.

dalepetrie's avatar

I’m always complimented and usually as soon as I notice, I add the person to my fluther as well. I always worry on very active days where I’m getting all sorts of lurve and it’s only showing me the last 5 activities if someone might have added me and I missed it because I don’t want to have someone wonder why I didn’t add them back. I kind of wish in your activity it would say “so and so added you to their fluther”, then I’d know I hadn’t missed anyone.

poofandmook's avatar

@dale: All you have to do is click “See All Your Lurve” and you can go back and check with relative ease.

dalepetrie's avatar

poof…I know, just don’t always think to do it.

jca's avatar

i feel it’s a compliment and when i do it to someone, it’s a compliment to them.

i don’t think you have to ask someone first.

jsc3791's avatar

I think it is a compliment as well!

wundayatta's avatar

I used to tell people not to add me. I think it was a defense against disappointment. I was so sure that no one would want to add me; and convinced I didn’t deserve to be in anyone’s fluther, that I thought preemptive action would make me feel less bad about not being very desirable. Besides which, it was a wierd kind of reverse psychology thing. If anyone did add me, I could feel like they really meant it.

If it isn’t obvious, this all happens because of low self-esteem brought on by depression.

Right now, I’m ok about myself. So add away! It might not last very long!

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dalepetrie's avatar

I’m glad you asked this question. I went back and looked and there were probably 20 people who’d added me who I didn’t add…took a while to get through 39 pages of lurve, but it was worth it not to slight anyone.

gailcalled's avatar

In the minority, I know, but I feel neutral about that feature. I have no one; I check the daily questions and see what, if anything, interests me. It does help if one uses the Leader to include accurate info. There is only so much time I want to spend here (and it usually doubles by bedtime).

Knotmyday's avatar

Not ashamed to admit that you’re in mine, Gail. I add everyone I’ve found interesting and lucid, even if I don’t necessarily agree with ‘em all.

I know I’ll always find a quality topic in my fluther, if not in the dailies.

augustlan's avatar

By the way, I don’t think you need to add everyone who adds you. I’m never insulted if I don’t get “added” in return. I think you should only add who you want to add.

SoapChef's avatar

Well Augustian, you were one of my first picks!

dalepetrie's avatar

I know it’s not a requirement, but if someone thinks enough of me to add me, that’s a person I’d want to keep the association with.

augustlan's avatar

@SoapChef: Thanks, and I did add you, in return :)

@Dale: In your case, I think that makes a lot of sense. The people who add you like me! not only have to understand what you’ve said in the first place, but respect it, too.

AnonymousWoman's avatar

I don’t mind if anyone adds me to their Fluther at all. I don’t really add people to mine unless they add me first.

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