How to deal with overweight family member?

Asked by Trustinglife (6668) October 22nd, 2008 from iPhone

A friend of mine has a son whose wife recently gave birth. The daughter-in-law was overweight to begin with, and is now even heavier. My friend is quite concerned about her, especially since they plan on having another child soon. My friend has concerns about a second child being overweight, as well as her son having a roving eye. That wouldn’t be good for anyone!

My friend doesn’t want to bring it up with her daughter-in-law, and doesn’t know what to do. I suggested she ask the collective. Does anyone have a perspective on this that might help her deal with the situation or ease her mind. She’s really concerned about it. Thanks!