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What do you do when your afraid of what the future holds?

Asked by acebamboo77 (717points) November 29th, 2008

Whether it be the unknown or the expected, how do you handle what’s to come?

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Mexicanamerican's avatar

I don’t know.. I just try to adjust as much as I can.. Either way it’s a difficult situation

jtvoar16's avatar

I usually get angry, cause it is not what I want, instead it is what I need.

augustlan's avatar

I worry myself sick. Pretty much what I’m doing now…not sleeping, sort of sick to my stomach. I keep the worries in the back of my mind though, so that I can at least function!

SoapChef's avatar

Try to trust that with your efforts and participation it will be a great ride. Like jtvoar16 and Mick Jagger said we often get what we need, not what we want. Gotta believe there is always something gained, even from hardship. A lot of things in my future are up in the air right now. I need to take my own advice.

Tantigirl's avatar

All we can do is take what we get. Can’t change it usually, so for me there is no point in worrying, because what you’re worried about might never happen.

jtvoar16's avatar

I knew I took my quote, in part, from one I had heard before, now I know who to credit!
Thanks SoapChef!

arnbev959's avatar

If it’s something I can control, I try to do whatever I can to make things work out for the best.

If it’s entirely out of my hands, or something that I have no ability to anticipate, I just try to wait it out, and put it out of my mind as best I can.

Magnus's avatar

Think that there’s absolutely nothing I can do about it.

amandala's avatar

I certainly don’t handle fear of the future very well. I’m a bundle of nerves: I lose sleep, feel anxious, and fidget constantly. I also immerse myself in my work to try to divert my attention. (For the record, this rarely works.) I turn to my friends for advice and try to embrace change, but it’s incredibly difficult.

queenzboulevard's avatar

If there was something that could be done about the future by worrying, then I’d definitely do it. But since I haven’t tapped in to that kind of power yet, I just say ‘oh well, here it goes.’

LKidKyle1985's avatar

I usually drink. It doesnt do anything to help, but I usually have a good time. Unless its like a test or something I am worried about… then I just study. then drink after the test. ha but really I dont drink that much.

basp's avatar

For the most part, I live in the moment so I don’t fret about the future.

wildflower's avatar

I hide in distractions!

meemorize's avatar

Personally I’ll meditate to focus on the moment rather than either past or future.
Living in the moment making the best out of every situation rather that trying to anticipate an uncertain future certainly makes me feel at ease.
Works for me.

Melonking's avatar

I do something that I can look back on when the bad thing comes and feel good aboult.

dynamicduo's avatar

The way I see it, the future is inevitable. Even if you’re afraid of an event, that doesn’t mean it won’t happen. So it’s best to take the best outlook you can on it. Find out why you are afraid and try to remedy it in advance, or find comfort in reading other people’s experiences. Realize that life is tough sometimes, but without the hard times we wouldn’t truly appreciate the good ones.

bythebay's avatar

Embrace the change and the chaos; day by day, minute by minute, if necessary. You cannot control what the universe will hand you, but you can control what you will do with it. And SoapChef is so right, what we want and what we need are often very different things. Be careful what you wish for.

wundayatta's avatar

I do lot’s of self-destructive things. I clam up. I avoid. I try to pretend it won’t happen. At the last minute, I frantically do everything I should have been doing way back when.

When it’s over, it rarely seems to be as bad as I thought it was gong to be. It was the things I didn’t see coming that totally sandbagged me. Like when the woman who was my first lover ditched me at graduation. Wow! Didn’t see that one coming! Took me five years to really get over the feelings of loss. Thirty years later, and I still think about it.

Judi's avatar

Breathe and keep moving. Like Dory in Finding Nemo sang, “Just keep swimming, swimming, swimming…..”

CathyBryant's avatar

Pray, then remember that God is in control. Fear is the number one weapon of the enemy. He uses it to paralyze us and keep us in limbo.

elijah's avatar

I am afraid every single day. I guess my answer depends on what level of fear I happen to be at each day. I will sleep too much, or not sleep at all. I will clean my house top to bottom, or leave a basket of laundry unfolded for a week. I worry about money all the time, but I just keep spending money to make myself feel better. I think I just like doing things in extreme opposites.

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