Gift basket or flowers?

If you went on a date with her, I think maybe she might think of you the same way you think of her. Go with the flowers, but not roses, something less romantic.

I agree with Mtl_zack. Maybe a nice daisy or tiger lilly flower arrangment—more than carnations, but less than roses. I think the gift basket would send the wrong message—Thanks for going on a date with me, but I’d like to stay friends for now, so maybe this wine will help… Eh.— At least that’s what I might think if a guy I’d gone on a date with gave me that. Flowers with a “let’s stay friends for now” would be better.

If I were you I’d go with the flowers for romantic reasons but not necessarily red roses, you can get pink roses which is more like my love is budding for you instead of red meaning i’m passionately in love with you and possibly a small token gift to go along with it… like a small box of godiva chocolate or even something sweet like an assortment of gummies or jellybeans.

the gift basket I’d use for another occasion :)

A gift basket seems like a sorta big gift as just a “thank you for the good time” present. Flowers are slightly lower-pressure, less of a big deal. Especially since you want to stay friends, I wouldn’t make such a big gesture with the gift basket, it might send the wrong message. I agree with dlm on the flower issue, something nice, but not red roses.

Flowers, FTW.

Flowers, the gift basket seems a little over the top.

A nice boquet of non-red roses (wild flowers? Lillies? NOT carnations) for sure.

Definitely flowers… and if you want to make a statement, use a really unconventional flower. I would say birds of paradise (they’re so perdy!) or an orchid or lilies or bromeliads. Something unique, not carnations or daisies or roses. Maybe sunflowers?

I agree with hannahsugs and dlm. When I finished reading your question, my first thought was “daisies!”. I think they’d be perfect—neither too pushily romantic (yeah i just made that word up), nor too subtle and friendy. That gift basket seems like kind-of-a-big-deal for a date. if i got that after a friendly date, i’d be a little weirded out.

Flowers. A mixed bouquet. Not carnations (looks cheap). Not roses (looks….well you know….)

I vote for flowers also. A $50.00 gift basket says a little more than “Thanks for the fun, friend. If you don’t want to give flowers, how about a Holiday candle and shade?

Definitely flowers. Gift basket screams platonic.

Ideas:
• Irises
• Gerbera Daisies
• Statice
• Tulips

I think the suggestion of daisies is perfect. Roses are too much flower-wise and the gift basket is definitely too much. Good luck, I hope you get another date!

Ooh, good point. Here’s hoping for another date.

the collective is pulling for you

Just a quick question:

I know you guys said that a $50.00 gift basket is over the top but wouldn’t flower cost the same if not more.
I don’t mind spending the $ but why is the basket too much but same price flowers OK?

tnx

daisies? ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha
no, they’ll cost you like $9

roses: $12 – $15 depending on where you get them

You can get a nice bouquet at Stop & Shop for under $25. If you want them delivered, then it might cost more. Also, it’s what it says. A nice gift basket is big and flashy and over the top. Flowers are nice, traditional and, best of all, disposable. They look pretty and smell nice for maybe a week and then she can throw them away and get that counter space back.

And a gift basket somehow seems more impersonal than flowers, even though that makes no sense even to me. Girls like flowers. Go with flowers. :)

@windex, it isn’t about the cost as much as it is about what the gift basket is, if that makes any sense. There is just so much going on there! There is so much stuff in the gift basket she might feel a little overwhelmed. Flowers are a traditional, sweet way to send her a greeting/thank you.

windex It isn’t the cost of the basket or the flowers that made me suggest flowers.

A gift basket seems like something you would get your elderly aunt, an employee or a customer of your business.

Flowers are more personal.

Any kind of a gift after a nice platonic evening out is a signal that it might be more. After you spend the evening with a guy friend do you buy him a gift. How would you feel if she sent you a box of candy or a tie? Either send her a little note or an email or give her a call, saying how much fun you had and mention something light that happened and say you want to get together again.

Flowers. Not not roses, which are for love. Or just call her and ask her out again.

*Update

Thanks everyone, you were RIGHT!

not sharing anything else ; )

@Windex: You go boy!

Obviously not kissing and telling. Good man. :)

Definitely the flowers. Try something like daisies. They smell great, they’re playful & they say I’m thinking of you but not I have strong feelings for you.