If a boy that you sort of like asks you out, but then the boy that you love asks you out while you and the other guy are dating what do you do?

Why would you agree to the first individual when your heart was elsewhere?

“The boy you love”?

Love is a complex, mutual concept. (At least I think so. I don’t agree with the concept of “unrequited love” because both giving and receiving are extremely important aspects of love.) I doubt that you could love someone you have never even dated…

In any event, the boy you sort of liked asked you out. Ok, you went on a few dates with him, or what? I assume it isn’t serious? Let him know that you’ve enjoyed his recent company but that a relationship is not going to work out. Then, go out with the other person.

love is a very strong word. people use it too generally. it takes a lot to truley love someone.

Who are you? Marsha Brady?

Like GoS, I’ve never understood the declarations of love, without it being a mutual feeling. The only way this usually make sense is in young people – teenagers. They fall in “love” daily.

True love, is not so easy and is usually based on many different things, not just looks – or what you perceive a person to be.

First, if you were so “in love”, I guess I don’t understand why you would go out with the other guy, but that’s neither here nor there. What you need to do is not lead that boy on. It’s cruel to the guy that asked you out to string him along. Let him go, follow the advice GoS gave you, on that end.

If you really like this other guy and he hasn’t approached you, have you considered approaching him?

Does dating mean something different these days? Not that I ever dated, but when I was younger, it seems to me that you could date as many people as you wanted. When you wanted to be exclusive, you started “going steady.”

Who knows? Maybe these days dating is another euphemism for having sex. That’s what the pros call it.

Anyway @luv2shop, I don’t see why you have to break up. You are only dating. Why can’t you date both guys?

@ daloon – Yes the definition of dating has changed. When i was younger it meant just what you stated. But apparently now it means that dating is just being with that person exclusively. I dont understand how it changed to that though.

Be honest with yourself and your friends. Date who you want to. Just don’t throw around the word “love” haphazardly – it’s a word that can start wars.

Just follow your heart. The guy you’re with now will get over it if you don’t want to be with him. And maybe this guy you love won’t work out. But don’t be with someone because you feel like you owe it to them. Do what you want, life is short.

@vanelokz: I find that sad, somehow. It is so much more restrictive, but for what purpose? Young people should be allowed to grow up before making decisions like this.

@daloon – there really is no purpose. yeah I agree with you. Teenagers are forced to make that decision too early in their lives and end up unhappy forced to make a decision they weren’t ready for. So much more pressure is put on an individual nowadays

@luv2shopgal123 are you happy with your current boyf ? Do you think you would be happier with boy #2 ? sometimes you have to think about you. but at the same time, you dont want to hurt boy #1’s feelings too badly. I dealt with this once, the boy was crushed when i chose the other guy, but in the end he got over it, i was happy, and now i am best friends with boy #1. Maybe you can have the same luck as I did ( :