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Long Distance Relationships.

Asked by Pango_Vine (27points) January 11th, 2009

I’m only 15 and have been officially dating this guy for 5 months. There have been problems that we worked out with out much real problem. An argument never lasts more than a few hours before we cant stand being mad at each other anymore. I would say him and I have a good strong relationship and we (as stupid as this sounds from a couple 15 year olds) are in love. Sometime within the next couple years I might be going to Germany for a semester for schooling. What I am asking is, how do you think this may affect our relationship? We would most likely still have voice conversations online (skype or msn).

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tennesseejac's avatar

Just follow your heart. At 15 yrs old you still have some changes to go through and at 5 months the relationship has many more changes. If Germany is not in the near future just keep following your heart, if you love this guy you should be able to last a semester away and it might even make the relationship stronger.

cage's avatar

I’m in love with a girl who lives approx’ 4000 miles away.
No, I’m not joking.
I live in England she lives in Kansas.
I’ve met her once, lived with her for a month and it was one of the best times of my life. I’m going back next month for a longer stay and might be moving out there in the fall.
Long distance relationships work if you have the trust there.
In someways they’re better than physical relationships because that physical side isn’t there! You don’t have anything to be jealous of as you can’t see those little things your lover does that might worry you or so.
I keep in touch with her everyday over iChat.
If you like this guy, then good for you, stick with it, and don’t let anyone get in the way of that. If I’d let that happen to me, then I wouldn’t have met my girl.

My number one tip is be patient with yourself and just believe in him. Trust him
Good luck :)

cage's avatar

Oh, and I agree with @tennesseejac in that at 15 you have changes to go through still, so if you move on ‘accidentally’ and it’s not meant to be, it’s not meant to be.
Love can hurt sometimes too.

laureth's avatar

Long distance relationships are very, very hard. It’s hard not to see each other, it’s hard not to hold each other, and it’s hard to not be in the dailyness of each others’ lives.

That said, a long distance relationship with no end (to the distance) in sight is very, very hard. Being away from the one you love for a limited time, like a semester, with a date you know you’ll be back, is merely very hard. If nothing else, you can keep a calendar and cross off the days until you’ll see each other again.

What an experience it will be to study in Germany! You’ll remember it forever. But it’s only a semester, and it will fly, especially for you (being in a new place with new people and things to see and do) more than it will for him.

At fifteen, I remember everything seemed like it would be forever, so just remember that it’s really not. It will be hard on the relationship, but if it is strong and you are both sincerely trying, it should overcome the obstacle.

russellsouza's avatar

I studied abroad in Paris in college and though I was single, most of my friends were coupled off. At the age of 15 especially (we were 20–21), you’re going to change quite a bit from spending time in Europe. I don’t think you’ll have trouble maintaining a long distance relationship while you’re gone. If anything I think you’ll have a problem picking up where you left off when you come back, having grown so much while apart.

TitsMcGhee's avatar

I spent two years in high school in a long distance relationship… That was from Missouri to Pennsylvania. It was really stressful on both ends and probably wasn’t the best thing for us as teens (I was 16–18, he was 15–17). I did love him dearly, and I still do, but we had a pretty heinous breakup, a lot due to the distance. We did love each other, but we were really too young and unable to maintain a good relationship just because we were inexperienced. I would definitely give it another chance if we were in the same place, but I wouldn’t recommend long distance to anyone who hasn’t had much relationship experience in the past. Right now, 5 months might seem like a very long time, but in the grand scheme of things, it’s not really. I don’t mean to discount your feelings at all, but long distance can lead to a lot of hurt and heartache.

Jack79's avatar

2 years for a 15-year-old is a very long time. Realistically, you might not even be together next week. But I know you don’t think of that now, because you’re 100% sure you’ll grow old together (ok, and by “old” you mean 23).

But it doesn’t really matter yet, does it? Enjoy your relationship until the time comes for you to move. If by then it’s strong enough, you’ll have nothing to fear. And it it’s not, you’ll have nothing to lose. Just take it one day at a time and you’ll cross that bridge when you come to it :)

acebamboo77's avatar

I was never interested in dating when I was younger, so I am a little skeptical of young daters. I am not insinuating anything about yourself, or anyone else young and dating either.
I wasn’t really interested in real relationships until I was about 18. I wouldn’t have taken the relationship seriously.
That being said, I am in a long distance relationship and it’s hard, but only because I miss the physical stimulus. No, not just sex, I’m talking about sleeping alone at night, and holding his hand too.
However, the only thing that has made this relationship sustainable is our trust for one another.
One thing a long distance relationship is good for is communication, you need it to make things work.

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