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nebule's avatar

Anyone part of a book group?

Asked by nebule (16452points) January 15th, 2009

Or have you been?
What was it like?
Who and how did they choose the books…?
Did you enjoy it?
What was the format for the meetings…

I’m thinking of starting my own because there aren’t any round here where i live and i thought it would be fun… but then again it could be a disaster because i haven’t got a clue what i’m doing…so thought i’d do some research first

and…. as i luuuuuuurve all your opinions soooo much what a better place to start!!!

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tennesseejac's avatar

Never been in one, but they sound fun. I think you could just wing something like that. You know, just discussions about symbolism and each person’s opinion about the entire book? Maybe each member could choose a different book or you could have books on similar subjects? I was in a “Sports in Lit” class in college and we read 10 different Sports novels, that was one of my favorite classes in college

AlfredaPrufrock's avatar

I’ve been in the same book club group for the last 16 years. I can’t even remember how I came to be in it. It’s next week, we’re reading Plain Truth by Jodie Picoult) Most of the women I know are in book club and all of them are different from each other. It’s really fun; there is a cohesive core group of women, and a lot that have come and gone over time.

We take turns meeting at each other’s houses each month. The hostess provides some sort of refreshments, which varies but is usually pretty low maintenance. The December meeting usually includes a used book swap. We make a point of reading only books that are out in paperback, to minimize cost. Usually someone will check and see if the library has a book club kit on the upcoming book. Our library puts together 10–12 copies of a book in a bag, with discussion questions,to loan out to book club groups.

We have a book club journal that everyone signs into. The person who is hosting next month’s meeting is responsible for recording notes about the book discussion, and passes it along to the next person when they come to her house. We generally spend the first 15–30 minutes getting settled, personal chatter, etc. The hostess acts as moderator for the group, moving questions along. Sometimes we use discussion questions on the book, but more often than not, we start by talking about whether we liked the book or not. We usually do a pretty deep dive into the books. The last 15–30 minutes are spent discussing other books we’ve read and liked or didn’t like, with suggestions for upcoming books. Sometimes we’ll decide on 2–3 books ahead, especially if we want to read something that’s rather long. People often come to book club without having read the whole book, or even started it at all.

The group seems to prefer novels, with at least 1–2 classics a year. Sometimes someone will bring in an article to share about the book or the author, and we discuss new books by past authors, and on occasion, we’ve gone to see a movie made about a book we’ve read. We decide on a book by group concensus, and if we can’t decide, that’s when we schedule out a few months.

Most of the women I know are in book clubs, and they’re all different. One is in a group that has dinner each month, and they read books off the NYT best-seller list, both fiction and non-fiction. Another is in a group that only reads books with a historical context. We have a book group at work that reads business books, but you have to be invited to join it, and I haven’t been.

We usually send reminders about book club via e-mail a few weeks ahead.

I’ve never started one from scratch. How were you going to promote it at the beginning? Do you have a core group of people who are interested?

nebule's avatar

@AlfredaPrufrock Thank you! I don’t have a huge amount of friends but i do have two sisters who know a lot of people through their kids and school and have quite good established relationships so that’s one outlet… I live in a fairly small town, with good community so the local shops are always happy for you to put posters up etc.,..so i was thinking of going down that route too for a bit publicity. I was generally thinking of starting small anyway because I;m not very confident at the moment and need to build up my people skills as such…and thought that this would be a good way to do it too…

Thanks for the ideas… i envisage my only problem is going to be people getting babysitters,...(or rather husbands/wives) to stay in…and picking a suitable night… but you’ve given me lots of food for thought…

How often do you meet?

90s_kid's avatar

No. I have trouble reading books :S I can barely even read when people whisper…

augustlan's avatar

I belonged to an invitation only book club that I quite enjoyed. Interesting books, interesting people and a regular mom’s night off once a month…what’s not to like. Ah, but. As in most other kinds of groups I’ve been in, there were the usual bickering and political intrigue brewing and that’s about when I decided it wasn’t for me anymore. I opted out before it became a free-for-all. I hate when that kind of crap happens. Hope your group is trouble free.

AlfredaPrufrock's avatar

@lynne, I would put out posters about six weeks ahead, with little tear-off tabs that say “book club first meeting,” date, and the name of the first book. Make arrangements to have the first meeting at a coffee or book shop, as people may be more comfortable in a public setting for the first meeting (I think the one I belonged to actually started at a Mother’s Center in the 1970’s). Get a gmail or hotmail e-mail account for the book club, and as people respond, send an e-mail from that account with a welcome message, and details about the location and time. Then, about a week before, send them a reminder, ask them to bring a friend, even if they haven’t read the book, and say that you will be discussing the next book choices that night. I would pick a good generic book with broad appeal, perhaps one that comes with discussion questions, like “Then We Came to An End” or “The Emperor’s Children”. If you’re going to make the group co-ed, make sure you make a choice that has broad appeal, although I read a historical novel that was a bit of a boddice-ripper, and it ended up making the rounds through a wide circle of retired West Point alum; they liked the frontier war element.

Have an idea of what the ground rules should be, but leave them open to consensus and discussion. It sounds like a lot of fun!

gimmedat's avatar

As a matter of fact, I am missing book club tonight because it’s my son’s birthday. I LOVE book club, which in my world is called “BYOBBC” meaning “Bring Your Own Book and Bottle Club.” We are twelve ladies ranging in age from 30–50, we all have kids around the same ages, we all have similar religious and political affiliations. It’s great. We meet monthly, the third Thursday, and we have the most lively, enjoyable talks! I have learned so much from the women I meet with. I don’t necessarily hang out socially with each member, we don’t hold any expectations like celebrating birthdays or anything else; it’s just BYOBBC! Of course there is always a designated driver.

scamp's avatar

My daughter just turned me on to a site called goodreads. it seems pretty good so far.

janbb's avatar

Lynne,

I just found this question. I’ve been in a few book clubs; the current one for about 10 years. We meet once a month on a weeknight at member’s houses. Like Alfreda’s, the hostess provides some simple refreshment. The person who is hosting the current meeting gets to pick the book for the next month. Sometimes we read fiction; sometimes non-fiction, occasionally classics. One problem I have is that the discussion is sometimes minimal and not very focused, although sometimes it is more deep. I would think having a moderator for each meeting would be helpful but that might be intimidating for some people.

I think it would be a great way for you to meet some people and have some adult socializing time.

Alfreda’s ideas about how to get started are great. Because you are single yourself and a mother, you might want to make it a women’s book group. (Women seem to be the ones who gravitate to book clubs anyway.) The Jodi Picoult book “My Sister’s Keeper” generated a lot of discussion in my group. She is not a super deep writer but the subject matter of that book will engender lots of response.

Good luck and if you have any other questions, feel free to ask.

maryleedy's avatar

Are you looking to do a book club online or offline? Online would be good if you have a yahoo group to discuss the book choice, post responses, and/or set up dates to meet in person.

Offline would be good in someone’s house, coffee shop, or library conference room. Make it a 2-hour meeting and you can even post it on www.meetups.com to set the date and rsvp’s.

You can start out small, like 3–6 people at first until people start bringing their friends in and make it good size comfortable group.

You will need to choose somebody that will keep things on topic and running smoothly. But even in situations where there’s disagreement or controversey is good for learning and growth. This could be a very rewarding venture for all involved and I wish you the best of success in forming one. :-)

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