Do you draw a parallel between someones dance moves and their moves in the bedroom?

My boyfriend can’t dance, but I’ve got no complaints. And I can’t dance, but I’ve never heard any complaints either. ;)

My boyfriend HATES dancing, but he’s fiiine otherwise ;)

Dancing requires the dancer to be comfortable in front of lots of other people. Other people (like me and my bf) are not comfortable being showy in public and drawing attention to ourselves like dancing would do. However, this has no bearing on what goes on behind closed doors, when you are with one person and are fully comfortable and open with them.

I always thought it was funny when people did try to draw a parallel to these two totally different things.
Sex is not like dancing, not even like dirty dancing. Sex is like sex and dancing is like dancing.
Do you often or should I say always have sex standing up most of the time?
I have never seen two people dance on the floor aside from breakdancing and that is usually a bunch of people standing around in a circle watching one person break.
Sex is meant to be sex and dancing is just dancing. I had a girlfriend once who was a dancer and a professional one at that and she was by far not the best in bed.

You could probably find parallels in body awareness and rhythm, though dancing and the coitus (I get far too much pleasure out of that word for some reason) are different…

I don’t do that, no. I agree with judochop. One has nothing to do with the other. But if I had someone who was great at both, that’d be a plus.

um… i think that yes… i do draw parallels but they have been unfounded

One thing that I always thought is that, good, rhythmic dancing by a guy, in public, showed a certain amount of confidence. I always found that women gravitate towards confident men (but also those that can dance, since a lot of guys are unwilling or unable to). So, if nothing else, it is a marker of self-confidence (and rhythm), which might matter….

I used to, but years of experience have taught me not to. The best on the dance floor has not equaled the best in the bedroom . Not by a long shot!

Dancing is almost the same as married sex provided you are doing the robot. not really, just had to throw in my joke.. you know me

I have nooooooo rhythm what so ever….......except in the bedroom. Seriously i cant dance/wont dance unless with mandy ;) but id like to think im purty spiffy in the bedroom :P

I dance like the energizer bunny. I keep going and going and going

sorry, I couldn’t resist

My wife is a dancer. I’m totally blessed! I’ll leave it at that.

I do think I get an insight about someone when I am dancing with them (especially improvisational forms) that give me a strong impression about them as a person: how much they listen to their partner’s movements; how creative they are, etc, etc. which may be useful in gauging their sensitivity as a lover.

Furthermore, when I dance with someone (and not just looking, I mean, partnering with them) I think I get a sense of how they relate specifically to me.
In improv forms—just like in the bedroom—partners start developing their own kinaesthetic language; and so when I dance with them I can get a sense of how well the person “clicks” with me… which is nothing to do with how sexy they are in movement; but rather, the colour of our relationship.

Of course, people are very multidimensional, and what comes out in a dance may be a very different aspect to what comes out in bed. As seekingwolf suggests, there’s the public/private sphere. Certainly I’m happy to play in private in a way I wouldn’t do in public.. there’s a freedom there to express yourself in a different way.

No. My husband doesn’t dance and I am a VERY happy woman.

People who are very comfortable in their bodies are probably better at both. I’ve never looked at dancing (in particular) as a gauge, probably because I don’t go out dancing, but the way someone walks or uses their hands can say similar things.

@judochop Dancing is like dancing and sex is like sex, but if you do it right dancing is like foreplay and that can lead to sex. Woohoo!!

..and does anyone think that learning how to dance can improve your sex life in terms of thrusting perhaps? rhythm? spacial awareness? confidence? even if it is already rather gorgeous?

Swimming is more like sex to me. Show me a good swimmer and I am willing to bet they no rhythm in the bed. Stroke, breathe, move, etc.

I don’t know about “dancers” per say, but I think if you can get busy with someone on the dance floor you probably have good chemistry in the bedroom, too…

Haha, I don’t really think so, but my mom always said,

“If he can’t dance, he can’t do it!”

(She was in her 20s in the 1970s and very into going out to clubs, etc. She dated lots of guys and seemed to believe her statement held true.)

Being good at dancing means you are good at dancing.

While some of the sex gods/goddesses I have known have been good dancers, the only skills they all posses are intelligence, respect, excellent communication, and a love of good sex.

Since we start learning to dance way before we start learning to have sex, you really can’t assume anything by it.

Anyway, isn’t dancing just a socially evolved way of trying to convince people you are good at sex?

Maybe I’m just bitter because I suck at dancing